How I know my girlfriend is The One I’m going to marry

by Jun Loayza on April 26, 2009

My grandparents were divorced, my parents are divorced, my older brother is divorced… it seems that the Loayza destiny is to get divorced with whom we marry.

For as long as I can remember, my dad has constantly preached that I should not get married. “Be with a lot of women, live with one if she’s special to you, but never get married because love dies son.” he would say to me.

Through Awesome Revolution, I have interviewed at least 4 Millennials that got married at the age of 22.

For a while I just couldn’t understand it.  I love Kim, but there is absolutely no way I would get married to her right now.  How do I even know that she’s the one?  After all, I have been in many previous relationships where I fell out of love with my partner.  How can I be sure that it won’t happen this time?

I searched on the blogosphere and a ton of people have written posts about “how to know if she’s the one.”  All of them gave crappy, sappy advice like “You know she’s the one when the first thing you think of in the morning is her,” or “No one can tell you if she’s the one; you just know.”

Lame I say.

So as an entrepreneur, I sat back and looked at my relationship holistically.  I compared my relationship with Kim now, to all of the other relationships that I’ve ever been with to see if I am going down the path of a breakup, or if Kim might truly be “the one.”  Hey, all my friends seem to be married or getting married; maybe it’s time for a Loayza to find his one true love.

After analyzing my relationship, I realized the following:

I can punch her in the face when she’s annoying

Figuratively speaking guys!  When Kim is being annoying, or if I have a problem with what she’s doing, I have no problems with starting a fight with her.  And I’m not talking about the “where did you leave the remote control!” kind of fights.  Those are lame, ridiculous, and utterly stupid.  I’m talking about the kind of fights that show you care enough to get into an argument with her.

I was previously in a relationship where we absolutely never fought.  It was strange, and at the same time, I thought that I was in the perfect relationship because we never had an argument.  Looking back, I now realize that it wasn’t the perfect relationship; it was more like the perfect fling.  We never got into a fight because we just didn’t care enough about each other for it to matter.

If Kim does something that I feel is wrong, I call her out on it.  If Kim starts bumming it, I’m going to kick her little tush until she gets motivated again.  All couples fight; you just need to fight for the right reasons.

I double take but don’t get hard

Hahaha… the way I phrased this point cracks me up.

For some reason, my DNA is wired in a way where I can’t help checking out other girls, flirting with other girls, and wanting them to like me.  Hmmm… maybe it’s called “being a guy.”

Throughout every relationship I’ve even been in, I’ve always had a “go to girl on the side.”  It wasn’t like I was cheating on my girlfriend; she was just another girl that I liked and that I knew liked me.  At times I got tired of the girl I was with, so I would have fun with this other girl, making me feel more alive.  Yes, I know this makes me sound like an asshole.

But I think this is a key point in knowing if I’ve found “the one.”  I no longer have a girl on the side.  In fact, I constantly meet girls that I am attracted to, but the thing is, I immediately tell them that I have a girlfriend.  Yea, it sounds like a lame accomplishment, but it’s a pretty big deal for me.  I want to make it clear to the girl, and more importantly to myself, that I am completely devoted to Kim Ear.

Lunch with the Ex

Trust is probably the most valuable component of any relationship.  In my previous relationships, if I told my girlfriend that I wanted to hang out with my ex, she would flip her wig and start yelling at me, “Am I not enough for you!” I have gone out with some seriously crazy girls before….

You might think I’m lying, but I’m being completely honest when I tell you that Kim is completely fine if I go out to lunch with girls that I used to date.  Of course there are a few conditions:

  1. We must split the bill
  2. She has to be completely over me
  3. We can’t go to a restaurant that Kim and I love to go to together

Trust is the most important part of any relationship, and the ultimate test of your mutual trust is if you trust her to go out with her ex, and if she trusts you to go out with yours.

I’m happy to say that we pass the test with flying colors.

[Notice that I say "lunch," and not "dinner."  Dinner with an ex will ALWAYS be off limits]

I’m proud to show her off

I can’t wait to show Kim off to my friends and family.  It’s such an amazing feeling when you have a girlfriend that you’re proud to be with.

The test for this is simple.  Ask yourself:

  • Do you hesitate to introduce your girlfriend to your friends or to your family
  • Are you honest when you talk about your girlfriend’s career with others or do you make her career sound more prestigious than it actually is
  • Do you talk about your girlfriend when you’re with your friends or family

Kim perfectly fits each and every one of the qualifications that are important to me.  I still think I’m too young to get married (I’m 23), but I can honestly, and proudly say that Kim is the one.  I’m not ashamed to say it, nor do I feel like I’m going to miss out on all of the potential girls that I could have.

This post feels right, and it makes me feel happy to put my feelings about her in writing.

Discussion: What qualifications must your significant other pass in order for you to know if he or she is the one?

About the author

Jun Loayza Jun Loayza is the President of Ecommerce Rules. In his entrepreneurial experience, Jun has sold 2 internet companies, raised over $1,000,000 in Angel funding, and lead social media technology campaigns for Sephora, Whole Foods Market, Levi's, LG, and Activision. Find Jun on Google or Twitter

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  • Lorling (Lorraine Smith)

    Great article! Sounds like you and Kim have a healthy relationship. The two of you seem to be mature ‘young’ people. And Kim sounds like a great girl! I agree with you – 23 is too young to get married. You have plenty of time. And where the history of divorce in your family is concerned – you only live once! You don’t want look back later thinking ‘what if …’

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Yea…. and what a history it is.

      I think this is definitely the healthiest relationship I have ever been in. The next step we’re going to take is moving in together. I think that’s going to be really fun, and we’re going to learn so much more about each other.

  • http://www.restlesslikeme.com Norcross

    As someone who had a lot of the same mentality in my early 20’s, then got married at 26, my experience is that if marriage, like anything else, is a hell of a lot of work, and more times than not seems like a sham. However, the points you raised are the same ones that my wife and I have. We can call each other out on our shit, are allowed to be human, and most of all are completely content with each other for who we are, not an idea of what we might become.

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Married at 26. I was thinking along the lines of 27, so I might be reaching out to you to ask you about your experiences with marriage.

      I don’t like the word “content.” Though I know you don’t mean it in this way, it sounds like you just “settled” or “got used to” your wife. I don’t want to be content with my wife and life, I want to be excited about them everyday.

      Again, it’s probably just semantics

  • http://leagaldunki.wordpress.com Kristina

    Congrats, Jun, on finding the one and on a wonderful post. I wish I could participate in the discussion, but I’m single and have been for awhile. Maybe I’ll bookmark this post and come back to it when I have found the one.

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Want me to introduce you to some good looking, intelligent, ambitious guys?

      • http://leagaldunki.wordpress.com Kristina

        Yes please. I’m a little tired of being single. ;)

      • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

        hahaha, where do you live? Maybe you should come to Vegas with my friends and me next weekend

      • http://jennamoss.wordpress.com Jenna

        I’m with Kristina on this one.

        You have any friends in Ohio? haha

      • http://leagaldunki.wordpress.com Kristina

        So, Jun, I just now saw your comment back to me, so I think I missed the Vegas trip. Opps. But in answer to your question, I live in San Diego.

        And Jenna, thank you for having my back! Glad I am not alone.

  • Yawza

    Great Post Jun. I wanted to ask you how do you deal with the pressures of a future proposal from friends and family?

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Hmmmm… to good thing is that my immediate family and my best friends don’t pressure me at all about getting married.

      My parents DON’T want me to get married until I have established my career.

      The really amazing thing is that my best friends from back home, Kia and Timon, both are in very serious relationships. So, it would be so great if we all got married at the same time and went through that part of our lives together.

      Hahaha… yea, very sappy

  • Nicole

    My qualifications for knowing if my man is the one:
    – He puts as much into the relationship as I do.
    – I trust him completely, and know that I can count on him no matter what. This ranges from knowing I can call him to run an errand to knowing he would take care of me and everything at home if I got sick or injured.
    – My family (particularly my brother) likes him. A lot.
    – We have similar goals and desired standard of living, and are both willing to work equally hard to achieve it.
    – I can imagine having kids with him, and think that we would make a good parenting team.
    – I can talk to him about anything and everything pragmatically, down to how I feel about our relationship, without it ever getting too emotional or irrational.
    – He makes me laugh. Often.
    – We’re compatible travel companions, and things are better with him than without him.
    – Even after years of living together we can still have an enjoyable conversation every day.

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      awwww… well that was sweet Nicole. Are you with anyone right now?

      I hope that Kim and I will be able to have conversations even after years of living together

  • http://thinkoutsidereality.blogspot.com Christie

    Great post! I think you do a good job of explaining the importance of a relationship being *healthy*. I think too often people focus on how much they like their partner, instead of how healthy the relationship is. There’s an important distinction, and I think you do a great job of explaining it.
    I am pretty curious to see your answer to Yawza’s question, though?

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Christie, I actually did answer Yawza.

      I really don’t receive any pressure to get married. Most of the pressure is to NOT get married and make a lot of money.

      It’s hard to be the “hope” of the family; the way I deal with it is to just suck it up and do it. I also let my blog be a place where I can vent and feel supported by my close blogging community.

      We’re all trying to be successful. So if can support you in any way please let me know

      • http://thinkoutsidereality@blogspot.com Christie

        That’s cool that you don’t receive a lot of pressure to get married. It sucks that you’re under pressure to make money, but I love that you’re up to the challenge! That’s great.
        Sometimes I feel pressure to make a lot of money… but I think it’s actually a generation removed from where you are feeling it (I’m the oldest, my parents are still idealistic. Still, they weren’t raised by idealistic people and it shows through… if that makes sense.) Anyhow, I’m starting to realize that’s actually a nice release, because I’m a lot closer to my immediate family than my extended family anyhow. It’s easier to care less about what my extended family expects, which is nice.
        My passion is art, and music, and in some ways logic… it has been and always will be. It’s strange how much that passion is just instilled in me… it will never be gone. I’m sure you can understand, since you are so clearly passionate about your work.
        I think I’m probably going to start getting more involved in the social networking world, actually… so hopefully you will be hearing from me more often! I just love the dialogue of your blog- and Tony’s too for that matter. I want to get involved in the conversation. :) I wish the three of us had talked in high school! I knew you both, but I talked to Tony in core classes and only got to talk to you in orchestra… I don’t think I even realize you were friends until Tony went to visit you in CA last year.

        I just have to free up some time for editing and organizing my ideas first :). But I’m making those changes, so the time to start being more serious about it should start very quickly!

      • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

        You should definitely hang out with us! If you’re not in SoCal, we can always hang out on Skype! I’ve been doing it a lot more often and it’s such a great way to really get to know each other better.

        Just checked out your blog and I think you have something really great going on. Keep it up!

  • http://JosephAyi.com Joseph

    As soon as I saw this blog post title I smiled. I am happy for you and Kim and although I met her only once, you two are great together.

    It is funny how Yu-Kai, myself and you all have girlfriends.

    Keep up the good work bro, we got the girl, now it’s time to make our company huge!

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Dude, we should totally have like a “Friends” setup. We can all live together!!!

      hahaha… that would be either super fun, or we would all end up hating each other.

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  • http://www.marcandangel.com Marc and Angel Hack Life

    The realization of love is found in the little moments… when you’re doing nothing with her, yet loving every second of it. Even when she’s sleeping. ;-)

    http://www.marcandangel.com/2009/03/30/the-blissful-art-of-being-and-breathing/

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Very cute :D

      Even in the morning!

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  • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt Cheuvront

    Jun – this is a great post man. Love is a powerful thing, and knowing that the one you are with is THE one is so amazing – it’s the same way I feel with my girlfriend. It keeps your grounded, love helps you put things in perspective – in a business sense, it helps keep you sane and organizes your priorities. It’s just an amazing, powerful thing, that no amount of professional accomplishment to replace. The idea that another human being can love YOU unconditionally, I mean, it doesn’t get much better than that.

    Sorry for drifting a bit lately – but I’m still around bro, you’re doing big things, I’m working on some things of my own – we’ll have to sit down and chat soon. Keep on keeping on!

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Yea, if I wasn’t with Kim, I’d be running around chasing all these girls around me. She’s good for me.

      I sent you a draft. I think I’ll send you a final this week.

      Let me know what you’re working on

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  • http://www.yinkaolaito.com yinka olaito

    Congrats Jun. I wish you all the best. I pray this happy find love last till old age.You have a permission to make a difference and set a new rule in the Loayza

    • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

      Thanks Yinka! Yup, it’s a whole new generation for the Loayza fam

  • http://www.aboundlessworld.com Bud Hennekes

    Looks like you know the power of authentic relationships!

    Congrats!

    -Bud

  • http://www.aboundlessworld.com Bud Hennekes

    “I can punch her in the face when she’s annoying
    Figuratively speaking guys!”

    That made me laugh out loud in class! Good stuff!

    • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

      hahaha… Yea, had to make sure that no one took me seriously on that one!

  • http://twitter.com/mehta1p Pritesh

    Congrats Jun. It’s definitely good feeling when you relize that she is THE one. I can tell you few things from my experience:

    – At every steps of the life, our lifestyle changes. Whatever I used to love few yrs back are not the same now. I have changed myself completely and I’m not the same guy what I used to be few yrs back. My lifestyle, thinking process, my career- all have been changed but they haven’t impacted on how I love my girl. But it has tremendous effect on our relationship. I simply love the way my girl handles it and it makes me to love her even more!

    – Honestly, I had no idea what it means as I have not seen any divorce in my family. I remember I had similar conversation with a friend few years back. I told him that life has it’s own style. You can learn it as much as you can from your own experiences. Whoever you choose to be with, try to with her/him as much longer as you can. Try to solve all the problems before you make the biggest one which may be hard to undo. I believe that life is like a poker game. In poker, you have to play your best with whatever cards you have. Just treat your life as a poker game once you decide you’re ready to be with someone and try to enjoy/win the life-race along with her. Don’t take me wrong as I am not saying that divorce is wrong. Sometimes we have to do it as we may not have any other option available and that might be the best for everyone. Simply, I am saying that sometimes we want the best and to achieve it, we lose someone who could make the best out of nothing.

    Cheers.
    Pritesh
    http://twitter.com/mehta1p

    • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

      “Life is like a poker game.” Such a great quote! You can write a post about that.

      Our lifestyles definitely do change; I think the people who stay the happiest accept the change and adapt to their environment.

      Get an avatar bro

  • Adam

    I’m only 16 and I’m have been thru both good and bad relaotionships. The girl I’m with right now is a freshman in highschool. I know I have a longbtime before I find “the one” but I wanted to know if she is. I really do love her. But when were on the phone, sometimes we don’t really talk about Anything. This can go on for maybe an hour or so. We’ve only been together for 2 months now and she really is agreat girl. But we never really talk about our relaitionship. If I never brought it up then it would never be talked about. We never really fight and sometimes when she’s mad or sad I can’t make her feel better buy I’ll notice that when she goes to her friends she immediately starts smiling and eventually gets in to a better mood. She never really ever sits down with me 1on1 and wants to talk about anything. I just can’t tell if she is right for me or not. But I do know it would break her heart if I left her becuz I do know she loves me but I want to be happy in this relaitionship. Please help me out her because I don’t really have any1else to talk to about this. My parents don’t really understand what I am talking about u guys will. Help me know if she is the right one. And if I should stay with her and pursue this relaitionship.

    • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

      Hey Adam,

      Before you read on, shoot me an email at me [at] junloayza.com and we can talk about it in more detail.

      To leave a brief and to the point comment: This girl is NOT the one. I can tell you this for sure, and you guys will break up. Now, this doesn’t mean that you don’t care about each other or that you don’t “love” each other; all it means is that this is a learning experience for you and her.

      I remember when I had my first girlfriend when I was 16. I actually liked older girls so she was 17. I thought she was “the one.” I was so obsessed with her that we would spend hours talking on the phone about nothing. My phone bill was ridiculous! But you know what, we grew out of each other.

      High School is NOT the place to find your girlfriend. High School and College are great times to find out who you are.

      Be with A LOT of women. Date them, care for them, love them, but realize that since you’re so young, you will grow out of each other.

      After being with a lot of girls, I am now mature enough to have a serious relationship. Actually, I think 23 is still too young to be with “the one,” but I feel that I’ve been with enough girls to really know for sure.

      So to summarize:

      Should you break up with your girlfriend right now since she’s not the ones?

      No, no need to break up with her now. Just take it as it is: a learning experience. Don’t obsess over her, don’t give her too much attention, and focus on yourself. Yes give her time, but your studies and friends ALWAYS come first.

      Shoot me an email if you want to chat more.

  • Adam

    How r u for sure she is not the one for me? She seems so perfect but she only lacks a few things. But I could easily overlook her flaws just as she does mine. And what is ur skype acc. Or if u have an Aim that would work better. But please give me more details as to why she isn’t for me. My email is sorowsblade@yahoo.com

  • sebastian b.

    why is dinner off limits for u??

    • http://Awesome.viralogy.com Jun Loayza

      Dinner is intimate. It should be reserved for really good friends or people you are dating. If I take my ex-girlfriend out to dinner, it would mean I’m trying to get back with her. Even if I don’t honestly mean that, it will be implied.

      No dinner with exes. It will only lead to fights

  • sebastian barahona

    Yeah i get what you mean. i thought you ment no dinner with anyone of the opposite sex like a friend whos a girl or something.

  • Martha

    U r sounding like matured enough to take and the circumstances of life, and I’d like to congratulate both of you.
    Well I have a situation to ask u n shared with u, i.e I have a boy friend whom I ready to settle my whole life. we love each other very much. But my parents force me to marry a guy whom they know very well. No doubt he is a perfect one, he has all qualities which generally girls likes.
    But I cannot even think of it to spend my life with him, whom I don’t love.

    Its a problem of caste, my boyfriend is not from my caste and they won’t allowed our relationship at all. I try a lot convinced my family but they asking me to keep their reputation as I’m the eldest daughter of family. What you suggest me?
    What shall I do?
    I shall be deeply appreciate for your help.
    Thanks!
    Martha.

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  • Jon J

    Hi Jun,

    Thank you for posting this. You def seem like you know where you want to go with your relationship with this girl. And it seems like you’re taking your time and not rushing or jumping into things (as Passion and emotions usually lead the young at heart to do).

    Didn’t really catch how old you are or where you’re at in your life (goals etc.). All I’d like to say is to use it all to your advantage. If there’s a girl you’re with right now who’s mad cool enjoy every minute of it. And the big word (when ever in a relationships/marriage) is COMPROMISE.

    I’m in my mid twenties and can never see myself getting married. I enjoy talking to and hanging out with multiple girls (which is not easy to do by any means, I’m still learning each step of the way…some girls get really jealous, others are really cool with it…you never know ;-)….but that’s just me.

    I find that when I start judging people for that: whether they like relationships with only one girl or with tons of different girls that it only breeds negative energy and comes from a place of Insecurity within the culprit.

    Having read alot about this, if I do choose to marry, it will be in my thirties.

    From your post I got that you did find a girl who’s: Smart, sexy, and very very emotionally healthy….and she has a high self esteem (it sounds healthy at least). Congratulations as you seem like a fellow who does not tolerate second rate behavior from anyone (especially the women you choose to have in your world).

    My interpretation of that to all the fellows out there struggling with relationships is to:

    1. Know what is that you want in a Man/woman you hope to start a relationship with

    Good self esteem, well groomed, respects their body i.e they eat healthy exercise etc….

    2. Never settle for less

    If a girl/guy you’re with doesn’t respect you, holds out on sex to control you etc…then why are you putting up with that?

    3. Never judge or expect anything from your partner

    Too many head games go on in relationships. To me this has to do with one word: Jealousy.

    4. Always realize that the only person you can Change is YOU. So when an issue arises with a girl/guy that makes you feel fear, or anger realize that you must take full responsibility and not take the attitude of “Why is this happening to me.”

    You have everything built inside of you already to make the changes towards a happier healthier way of life ;-)

    5. Hang out with Positive High Energy people

    People you’d want to be like or people who make you feel good. I’m not talking about people who kiss your ass or don’t give you tough love. I’m talking about people who understand respect and authenticity and honesty etc.

    Apologies for the rant. Thank you again for the great post. I enjoyed reading it ;-)

    -j

    • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

      j,

      Thank you so much for the meaningful comment. I can tell you put a lot of yourself into it so I read every single word and let it all sink in.

      I’m 23 (turning 24 in a couple of months) and she’s 24. She just got promoted and is an Assistant Manager at Free People. I just launched Viralogy.com 3 weeks ago and am hoping make it a huge success. Though we’re not THERE yet, we’re definitely on track to becoming very successful and happy people.

      You 5 points make perfect sense. Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge and passion and I hope to chat with you soon.

      – Jun

      • http://www.bookflirts.com Peter

        Hey Jun,

        This post is really great!! it really helps to balance out your life and not lose it all.
        Being an entrepreneur does take so much energy time and you have broken it down to its simple form.

        I just launched a unique dating site for book lovers and it went international already in 1 months. But i still have long way to go. Your voice has helped me thru the tough times.

        Thanks.

        Peter
        http://www.bookflirts.com
        online dating for book lovers.

  • Jon J

    That’s awesome,

    You both sound like you keep busy and don’t try to rely on one another (though that brings you closer when you each realize that the other is “doing”, “giving” their all to simply “give it” not expecting anything in return….picture two dancers each “giving” to the point where it’s look so seamless, one is not trying to look better than the other etc. ;-)

    Keep up the amazing posts. I’m really knew to blogs etc. Thank you for your response. I can tell you really know your etiquette.

    Viralogy looks pretty interesting. Good luck with that ;-)

    -j

  • rogerthat

    Hey jun,

    like your comments about how to find if the girlfriend is the one. Right now , i have a girlfriend who i think might be the one. Only problem is sometimes I cant understand her..seems like she’s a bit on the immature side or i am just too dense which makes me think twice of her being the one. Im 25, she’s 23… I dont know how to make our relationship a stable one if we keep on getting arguments suddenly…I know she loves me so much as i learned from her friends privately., but she’s just too idealistic? Or the retarded punchline “Gals are like that” always seems to be her favorite line ….

    Can we talk over email over this?

    thank you

  • Uyen

    Jun, I am utterly blown away by you. haha…. so i was bored and saw you online but you know it’s that awkward feeling you get when you want to say hi but you haven’t really spoken to the other person for such a long time it feels a bit weird? and now i feel all stalker-ish because i’m sitting here reading about your personal life in some blog you wrote a year ago.

    i didn’t realize how crazy this whole start up thing has been for you. but… i want say hello and tell you that this article really struck a chord with me. kind of hit home… a little. i feel like you just smacked me with a brick common sense. anyway, congratulations. we need to keep in touch, homie.

  • Digs

    Wow, What a meaningful advice from alot of you.
    Am in kinda the same situation at the moment, though we only been dating for 4 months, things seem so right. Though itm has been 4 months of long distance, where its 2-3 weeks and i see her for 3-5 days at a time…
    Is she the one when you see her and it makes her day, you wake up thinking of her and why she isn’t there with you, a simple call to hear about her day or little spontaneous romance to make her smile. Strangly never had a lady that fitted so perfectly and falling asleep in my arms, who seems to be at complete peace and falllen completely in love.

    The other weekend we spent 5 days in taupo staying at a hot water resort, amazing weekend it was. One of the days we went out for lunch and the waiter asked if we were on our honeymoon… to of which (if you ignore the inital shock) she jokingly played along and seemed completly fine with the idea. More so the talk got into kids, whether or not we would have a dog or a cat, and what life would be like if she lived with me..
    Currently she lives 6 hours away from me, and she is looking for a job up in my town, is it the time to ask if she wants to move in or would i assume that she would get her own flat and we continue from there.

    -Digs

  • http://www.bookflirts.com Peter

    hey Jun,

    it’s great to hear stories like this and very promising for all entrepreneurs like myself.

    I love how you really break things down.

    I just launched a unique dating site for book lovers and it went international already.
    Very excited but i still have a long way to go.

    Great blog Jun!

    Thanks
    Peter
    http://www.bookflirts.com
    online dating for book lovers.

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  • kurt lane

    i know that this girl bianca is the one cause every morning i only think of her and she says she always thinks of me and i tell her i love her all day but she says it more we kiss alot and we hug alot but im not certain that shes the one i need some help cause i really love this is the strongest feeling that i have ever had in love before this is the first time i have ever fell truly in love. i tell her everyting even my most deepest darkest secrets and she tells me hers her parents really like me but im not sure if shes the one i really hope she is cause i would takea bullet or a stab or uven a slow death anykind of death just for her to live i would use me last breath to tell het i love her is want to knowis she the one

  • http://daytonchan.wordpress.com Dayton Chan

    Hi Jun,

    Thanks for sharing your “passion” with the world! When I read this post a while ago and and then I wrote my post recently, How would I know true love, I thought I might share that in return for your inspiration.

    Peace!

    Dayton Chan

  • Michael

    That’s great how you want to get married at 27 and all, but you forget about us Christian folk. I goto a Christian College and here you cant live with your girlfriend and then get married. Most people get married in college, especially Christian colleges and end up being with that person the rest of your life. Im 18 currently and my girlfriend and I are absolutely sure we are the one. We plan on getting married junior year. Now before you start saying “oh you will definitely not last, and all that” lemme just say that yes, she is the one. Because certain people, know at certain times if they are or arent the one. You shouldnt even have to have this page posted on the internet to help you figure out if shes the one. If you have to question this, you definitely are not ready to commit to marriage because you are questioning her as being the one. It is something you will know. It is someone you cannnot live without and no one else interests you greater than her and you share that special bond. And you deeply desire to spend your life with them and do EVERYTHING with them. Its all i think about everyday sometimes. Its really something you cannot put into words. But yeah-my 2 cents.

    -Good luck with getting married old lol. The joy of getting married young is spending your life together in bliss without kids for many years. that is of course if you plan on having kids.

  • DW

    Don’t mind me for replying to such an old post. I respect your zest, but something you said made me wonder:

    “We can’t go to a restaurant that Kim and I love to go to together”

    To me this implies a sensitivity around meeting up with an ex to do something that could have been special if it had been done with Kim.

    I think human chemistry can occur regardless of the event.. wine and candles may supplement ambiance but I think part of staying true is not putting yourself in potentially dicey scenarios. Even if you feel nothing for your ex, it can silently taint things in the eyes of your partner.

    I have a friend who rationalizes meeting with his exes “as friends” (who clearly aren’t *meaningful* friends). Not only is this unhelpful to his partner but the cheap thrill/ego boost he receives is basically frivolous, setting himself up for potentially troublesome opportunities.

    We can never be 100% on the intentions of others.

  • Steph

    Has Kim read this article if so what does she think

  • Carlos

    Hey,

    I just came over this article. Im much older but still green on the relationship front. Actually just the long-term relationship front.

    I liked your points…especially the Punch Her in the Face one. I have the same feeling with my girl. Of course I never hit her, but we use that expression all the time.

    Just wondering if you guys are still together? You wrote this over a year ago.

    Is she the ONE? Was she the ONE?
    Im very curious.

  • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

    Yup, we’re still happily together!!!

    Going on 3 years and strong :)

  • MG

    I came across your article and it helped me alot – I’m 27 and just got out of a long-term relationship – I broke it off but was constantly second guessing myself – especially bc she was the first girl I ever even “thought” about marriage in my mind. The truth is I led her on and I feel guilty about blindsiding her, but there were clear indications while we were together that she wasn’t the one.

    1.I did have a “girl on the side” that I would have fun with, she knew I had a gf but I wouldn’t even mention it- it was like I wanted to be single towards her.

    2. We never fought- I would talk about issues that bothered me a little bit but in a matter-of-fact way, as if it didn’t matter to me that much if she got the idea or not.

    3. I definitely could not talk proudly at all about her career. She was cute and had a nice personality, so I would show her off to some people, but in the end I think I was doing more complaining than being proud.

    I think it was still a close call, because she did have some redeeming qualities, but in the end I think I was lacking “true love” for her and even though I feel like I miss her, she is now with someone who hopefully loves her more completely, and I can be patient and wait for someone that really fits what you described.

    • http://junloayza.com JunLoayza

      MG, I believe you made the right decision.

      Ultimately, you need to do what’s right for yourself. I know it can be hard to be selfish, especially if you care about the girl and want her to be happy. But if you’re not truly happy, then you cannot be with this girl forever.

      You’re young. Don’t look for the one until you’re at least 30. Have fun, meet new people, and don’t worry about relationships.

      Keep me updated

  • Cydney

    I came across this article randomly.

    All I have to say is that I am so happy for you both. I constantly second guess wether my boyfriend is the one or not. I think we are both just too young to tell, and a lit of it is probably a fear thing. We live together and love eachother very much but agree that it’s best to take it one day at a time. When it’s right, it’s right you know?

    But your post was very reassuring! We share all of the qualities listed =] I hope we, too grow to know, undoubtedly, that we will spend the rest of our lives together.

    I wish you and your lovely girlfriend (I’m assuming that’s her in the picture) a wonderful life together!

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Thanks so much! Kim and I are 26 now and still super happy! We just celebrated out 4th year anniversary.

      She’s moving up to SF next month and we’re getting out own place together for the first time.

      Exciting!

      Good luck with everything and I wish you nothing but the best.

  • Nicole

    Hi Jun! Thank you so much for this article, I loved it! I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2years now (and we’ve been living together for 1 year), and even if I know it’s really too soon to worry about it, I’m still wondering if he’s really the one. I know he’s sure I’m the one… And I think he may be… We get into fights when needed (but it never lasts long), we trust each other, we tell each other everything, we’re proud of each other… I’m really happy with him, I fell that everything is much better when he’s with me, I love living with him and feeling him close to me when I fall asleep… But even if we’re both 25, he’s my first boyfriend. All my life, I’ve thought I wanted the first guy I would kiss to be my future husband… And now I’m wondering : how can I know he is the one, if I’ve never dated anyone before? I have no point of comparison, no way to tell “this is going the right way”… Sometimes I think that maybe this is how anybody feels when in a relationship, maybe I’d feel this way with any boy I would date? Maybe he’s not so special? I love him, but how can I know I love him more than anybody else if I’ve never dated anyone else? Any piece of advice would be welcome!

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Terrific question!

      How can I know he is the one, if I’ve never dated anyone before?
      Knowing if someone is ‘the one’ is more a feeling than anything else. It’s a complete feeling of love and devotion – that you want to give this person everything you are and you trust that they’ll do the same for you.

      Knowing someone is ‘the one’ doesn’t usually come from comparisons – though comparisons do help.

      Sometimes I think that maybe this is how anybody feels when in a relationship, maybe I’d feel this way with any boy I would date? Maybe he’s not so special?
      I can guarantee you that you won’t feel like this with EVERYONE. However, I can guarantee you that there are people out there who you would feel very similar with.

      I have fallen in love 3 times in my life. The first time was with my first girlfriend – at the time, I thought I loved her so much and she was my everything. We were together for 4 years, until I finally realized that she was not the one.

      My second love was in college. We were so young, free spirited, and had an amazing 3-month relationship (3 months was all it took for me to know that I loved this girl). We had such a beautiful relationship and I learned so much from it. She introduced me to new types of music, art, and interesting people. Unfortunately, life circumstances did not allow us to continue our relationship – we’re still friends to this day.

      The feeling of “what if” will not go away. If you’re curious about other people right now, the curiosity will only increase later on in life.

      In my honest opinion, you need to explore the world and experience other people. Two of my closest friends have done this and say it’s the best thing they’ve done. They were in a 5-year relationship, hit 26, and realized they were each other’s first boyfriend and girlfriend. They didn’t want to go through life with the curiosity of wondering what it would be like with other people.

      They decided to mutually break up and experience life. If it’s meant to be, then they’ll get back together.

      Good luck!!! Let me know how things go

  • John

    I was at your stage once too, same feeling and opinions. Unfortuantly I quickly realized the truth and that women will change their man when they let their guard down while men will hope their women will never change. In other words, I started digging and learning more about women and ended up in more shock and realized what they are capable. As for “love”, it is just a chemical reaction which is also why it fades away.

    But, good luck!

  • http://seo seo

    Howdy! This post could not be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my previous room mate! He always kept talking about this. I will forward this post to him. Pretty sure he will have a good read. Many thanks for sharing!

  • dylan

    Hey just wanted some advice I’m a 16 year old boy and I have a girlfriend at 14. We have been in a relationship for nearly a year now. Our year anniversary is 19th of this month. Just I really feel scared sometimes, of the our future because we are young. We both talk about getting married and kids and we do love each other very much and I know you guys are talking about this is too young to be ‘the one’ but I genuinely think she is. We do have fights…some stupid ones and some reason because we care. I care. But I think it might be the stage in her life with periods and that. But she seems to get pissed off and is snappy sometimes, E.g.
    She said that she wanted to snuggle and kiss gok wan the gay fashion designer.
    I told her off saying that I didn’t like it and she said calm down he’s gay I don’t swing that way and I have no chance.
    I didn’t know what to make of it but she fell out with me the entire night because I told her I didn’t like what she said…
    I mean I never mean to annoy her, I never do that and maybe I get on her a bit with the music she listens to but that’s irrelevant. Plus she gets snappy as in…really dry texts. Texts boys with ‘<3′ and ‘d’awww’. And “Mr” she does flirt a bit…I know and doesn’t bother me I trust her just I’ve explained this a few times to her and she says don’t be daft I love you and wouldn’t do that to you. Its natural for me to get protective over her and just say to her that she’s mine…not as in property or social status but my girl. Also when I do these telling offs she always come back with…Christ I was just kiddin’ Jeeso dylan am I not allowed to have friends.
    And I say yes! As many as you want but I don’t want flirting with other guys. Cause I care about us. She hugged me and kissed me when I said this.
    Just were happy and we do have ups and downs…Mostly ups.
    Just I am concerned of the future. I wanna do everything I can to make sure we are still together and love each other. I know its hard work and I’m willing to do it, also I’m prepared for arguments and fights and changes and times where we are upset.

    • http://JunLoayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Dylan,

      My first relationship was when I was 16 – my girlfriend was 16 as well.

      We had a similar experience: we told each other “I love you”, we talked about marriage, we chatted about how many kids we want, and a bunch of other stuff.

      We dated for 3 years. I made her a priority and unfortunately didn’t do as well in school as I should have.

      At the end of the three years, we went to separate colleges so I broke it off.

      If I could do it all over again, I would not have a longterm relationship in high school. Sure, it’s good to have a girlfriend and experience it; however, you should both understand from the beginning that it’s not something serious – as in not something that will lead to marriage.

      It’s important to have fun, take care of each other, respect each other, and be supportive of what you guys want.

      Talk about marriage and kids is pointless. The girl you meet in high school will not be the girl you marry.

      Enjoy your freedom. During high school, you should be selfish and prepare yourself to do amazing things in the world: learn a new language, learn to code, find an internship, learn an artistic skill.

      During college, your goal is to explore and experience as many unique things as possible. It’s possible to do all of this in a relationship, but it’s extremely hard because she will always be holding you back in some way.

      My sincere advice is to respect and take care of your current girlfriend; however, get it out of your mind that you’re going to marry this girl.

      Do what you want right now, but always make sure that you’re being product and improving yourself personally, mentally, and physically.

      If she makes you happy, then stay with her as long as you’re happy.

      If she makes you unhappy, then it’s time to break up. There’s no point in dragging on an unhappy relationship.

      Good luck and let me know how it goes!

  • Krystal

    Hey, sorry I don’t no your name but I need a little advise. I’m 21 years old, I be 22 on May 7. I’m the oldest of six siblings. My parents got married real young when they were 19 and they are still married. They got separated last year but still married but anyways, I always thought being the oldest sucks because I’m suppose show a good e ample to my younger siblings. But me being 21 I just don’t have any direction in life, I never did and scared I might not ever. I’m not good at anything and have no interests or goals. I don’t even no how to drive, to tell u the truth I’m scared. I still staying at home, which I don’t mind but I’m not working and finding a job is not always easy, And the reason I wont dare go back to school is because I’m not very smart when it comes to learning. I cant’ stay focused. I feel immature in general sometimes. i am really embarrassed by this problem. Sometimes I feel like I will never find a guy to truly love me for me, or someone who really cares to stand by me the whole way threw. I just feel like a lil girl who’s lost. And being 21 i should have alot going on for myself which I don’t, I have nothing.

    • http://JunLoayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Krystal, I’m sending you a response via email. We can chat their privately.

  • http://henry Henry Woodside

    My first girlfriend is the one that I am dateing right now!! me and her have been going out for 6 months already and I got a really good feeling that she is the one. and congrats for you!!!

  • Michael

    Hey Jun, dude, like many others, your post struck a chord with me. But recently I’ve been doubting my relationship with my gf coz things have changed a little and I’d like to have your take on it.

    Recently I chanced upon her Facebook and found out that she’s been going out with some guy whom she has known for more than a decade. Now i have no problems with it until I realised on that day she told me she was going to sleep so we said our goodnights but on her Facebook she was actually outside with this guy until past midnight and got home in the morning. She was also telling her other best friend about this guy and said “we almost kissed but he didn’t proceed” and I was stunned when I read this. I confronted her about it and she denied, saying that there was no such thing. Then I told her I saw her post and she accused me of invading her privacy. A few hours later, the post was deleted and she told me if I wanted to insist on her “cheating” then we should break up.

    I tried to just tell myself that I misinterpreted the post and everything went back to normal for us, except, now she always carries her mobile phone with us wherever she goes and when I joked that I won’t be seeing her phone, she said “I just like having my phone with me”.

    A few days later, I chanced upon this blog that she had (which she had never told me about) and I saw that in 90% of her posts, one of her best guy friends always commented on her posts. I joked that he seems to be very interested in her but she just shot back and said he and her have known each other since they were kids and if there was anything between us, it would’ve already happened.She also said whether I believe it or not, she has already explained herself clearly and if I still want to ask her about her friends and her chats/posts, we should just break up.

    We used to talk about being together and get a house etc but now she tells me she’s not a person who likes to think ahead, rather, she lives each day as it is as no one knows the future, which I agree, but I think when 2 people are committed it’s only natural that they’d want to talk about the future as well.

    What should I do now?

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Michael, great to hear from you.

      Sounds like your girlfriend is trying to distance herself from you and trying to create reasons to breakup.

      Relationships are build on trust – if you can’t trust each other, then it won’t work out.

      You need to both be very honest with each other. Let her know how you feel about her secrets and how you feel when she’s hanging out with guys late at night.

      Healthy couples should not need to hide anything from each other. It’s important to each have your space and privacy, but you need to be honest with each other. If she wants to hang out with her guy friends at night, then she needs to tell you because you’d like to know.

      If you’re not ok with that, then perhaps you’re not meant to be together right now.

      I believe that the immediate next step is to sit down with her and be honest about how you feel. It’s important to have your privacy and space, but make sure to stay honest.

      Good luck!

  • Emma

    Hello Jun,

    I just happened to stumble upon this article (thanks, Google!) and I want to say that this is the best piece of relationship advice I’ve ever read. I don’t even know you and I’m rooting for you and Kim. Congratulations!

    I am seeking some advice regarding my new relationship. I’m 22 years old, and I’ve never had a serious boyfriend. I’ve only had a fling with a guy for a few months at the very beginning of this year and I knew he was just that, a “fling”. I’ve always considered myself to be an extremely logical person, most likely to a fault regarding relationships. We went on a few dates in February but I knew we would have to split ways once college ended. He we going to be 1000 miles away and I definitely wanted a clean start for my graduate school experience. I was proud of myself for not falling for the first guy that showed interest. My gut told me that he was not one for the long term and sure enough, he wasn’t at all right for me.

    Literally on the last night of college, I met this guy who was my best friend’s cousin. We instantly clicked and decided that even though we were moving back home for the summer (both of us are from Houston) we would try to see each other. We dated for a month, driving back and forth across town to meet, and then he asked if I wanted to make things official. I had no hesitation because he made me smile with every look, every call, every text message. At the time, I thought about going to graduate school with someone would would be about a 3 hour drive away. This guy seemed worth it; I didn’t want to see anyone else.

    Now, we have been “official/exclusive” for a month (dating for 2 months total). He’s been gone on a trip for the past 2 weeks and it’s given me some time to think. He has already mentioned future things we could do together so I know he’s falling for me, that’s not in question. My only question is about myself: is it normal to fall so hard and so fast for someone? I read through your post “list” and I could definitely say that we cover everything. The logical side of myself is terrified that he could be it for me. How do I know that this will last? How long did it take you to know Kim was the girl for you? I’ve only had the one fling to compare this relationship to, and I know it feels completely different.

    I guess that I’m worried that I care about him so much already, I’m afraid I’ll break his heart if something goes wrong. I know it’s way way way too early to be thinking about these things in a 1-month relationship. However, the thought of making it work and going to graduate school a decent distance away is scary too. I’m just going to have to wait and see I guess. I have absolutely no clue what I should be feeling or doing.

    Thank you so much for this article, I really loved it.

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Emma, I wrote this post 2 years after dating Kim. By two years, I felt that I knew she was the one.

      After 4 years of dating, Kim and I finally moved in together in Mountain View, CA. Everything was going great for a couple of month, but then all of a sudden we started getting on each other’s nerve. We started getting into daily fights, and we started to doubt if we could make it work. Living together really opens your eyes to your relationship and lets you see the person you love in a new light.

      But we were able to work through the hard times and make it back again to the good times. We’re almost 5 years into our relationship, and I can finally say that I know for sure we’re going to get married and have a family. We started dating at 22, and now we’re both 27.

      You can’t know for certain that the person you love is “the one” until you get through a real big fight, until you live together, and until you both are on the same page about your 5-year and 10-year goals.

      Questions I have for you:

      1. Have you had a REAL BIG fight yet?
      2. Do you plan to live together anytime soon?
      3. What are your 5-year and 10-year goals?

      The three questions above will help you determine if the love you have right now will last a lifetime.

  • the great

    hey sounds great, are you 2 married already? and second question is it normal that a girl wants to finish a relationship for everytime we have a big fight?

  • http://www.makerealestate.com Audra

    Awesome article! Kim looks so cute. Both are good-looking.

  • trinity

    Hi Jun,
    that’s sweet but makes me jealous. I am 35 yo. single and a good person (don’t mess around and loyal to one). After 3 relationships in the past that didn’t work out, I finally met the guy I ended up falling in love with and can’t explain why he just had the qualities I was looking for and I just had so much fun with him. plus first time I ever met someone that I tolerated so much (he’s a cancer sign moody and doesn’t express his feelings). Well turns out he doesn’t feel the same way though he still keeps in touch with me and flirts a lot. He is 28 yo. and confused but I just feel that it is so unfair that I waited all this time to finally have that feeling of truly loving someone and always wanting to be around them and I am not getting it in return. I have great qualities and never had this issue in the past. Is there a way to win a man’s heart in general or is it relative. I don’t want to be with anyone else honestly. huh…
    sincerely,
    hopelessly in love
    ps. I want to start a dropshipping ecommerce and will be looking at your books. Just have some questions I don’t see your ecommerce store. did you sell it?

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hi Trinity, thanks so much for the comment!

      It’s cliché, but I believe you just have to be yourself. You shouldn’t try any tricks to win a person’s heart. Be loving, caring, and put in as much effort as you truly want; if that love is not reciprocated, then it’s just not the right fit.

      There are no tricks to it.

      Yea, we’re moving MR to a new host so it’s down for a couple of days. Let me know how I can help you with the drop shipping site!

  • Ebenezer

    Hello..thank you for the tips and are you and Kim still together?

  • Sokuds

    Great Post. I chanced upon it while looking at something else, and I am very happy for the two of you! I’ve been looking to understand men better in their romantic relationships, and your post made a lot of sense. Too often the ones we don’t care about are the ones we never fight with or for. But the same holds true in the other extreme. The ones we fight with too much as well, the stupid small fights are not the one either I think.
    Have any friends in Ohio?

  • Dimple Eugenio

    Hi Jun,

    I love this blog so much. Can I get a little help from you?
    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we love each other as far as I can see. I exerted much effort to have a romantic relationship. One day, I asked him on what is the sweetest thing I have done for him. He said, the surprised in a hotel. Then he said “I am sorry if I cannot do anything special unlike what you do to me, because I am not yet sure if you are the one. I want to do the best to the girl if I am sure she is the one.” I am so confused, do I deserve this? I think this is too unfair. Any advice will help…

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Dimple Eugenio, I’ll respond to you via email.

  • ilochonwu obinna

    hello,I’m 16,i know maybe teenagers dont fall in love but actually I want to.I always like girls dat seem beautiful to me and I have been in some relationships but I met Doris 14,we LIKE each other.I want to stick to her and I can only do so if I know she’d the one.Pls,how do I go about it?

    • http://www.junloayza.com/ JunLoayza

      Take your time. There is no rush.

      When you’re a teenager, it feels like every decision you make will determine the rest of your life.

      Think of life as a video game. Right now you’re young, and your objective is to level up as much as possible before you are sent out into the real world to battle monsters.

      Learn. Level up as much as you can by learning, reading, writing, finding a mentor, and becoming the best you can be.

      If you go to college, it’s another stage where you’ll be able to level up even more.

      Focus on yourself and focus on learning.

  • Nick Rizzuto

    Hi Jun I would to discuss my current relationship with you because I do have some questions and I don’t know how to answer them.

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      What questions do you have?

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    I was married for 8years with out any child,because of this my husband start acting very strange at home,coming home late and not spending time with me any more.So i became very sad and lost in life because my doctor told me there is no way for me to get pregnant this really make life so hard for me and my family.my sister in law told me about Prophet Osaze from the Internet,how he has helped people with this similar problem that i am going through so i contacted him and explain to him.he cast a spell and it was a miracle three days later my husband can back to apologize for all he has done and told me he is fully ready to support me in any thing i want,few month later i got pregnant and gave birth to twins (girls) we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Prophet Osaze for saving my relationship and for also saving others too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address:spirituallove@hotmail. com

  • https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100004843025788 Mara

    Am mara, i base in USA. i had problem with my ex boy friend some months ago. And he was cheating on me which hurt me badly,and he was also avoiding me,He no longer pick my calls.I was totally confused cos i don’t know what to do.There was a day i was surfing the internet i came in contact with this spell caster who have helped so many people in their relationship.So i contacted him and explain everything to him.And he told me to do some things,I did the correctly.To cut it short.My ex boy friend gave me a call and said to me that we should have a date,i agreed.On the date,He was begging me to have him back and i agreed we are now together as one again,Planing our wedding.thank you Prophet Osaze. meet him via his email; spirituallove@hotmail. com

  • Pat

    Hey man, i just kinda stumbled across this article and like a lot of other people it struck a chord with me. I guess im in need of some advice.
    I’ve been dating this girl for 2 and a half years, were both 21 and she loves me a lot and talks about how she wants to get married and have kids once we both graduate, but i find myself extremely attracted to other girls and having a “girl on the side” that i don’t do anything sexual with but we definitely flirt pretty heavily, to the point where i’ve even received a few nude pics. i guess im just wondering that, even though i feel like she’s not the one right now, can that feeling change over time, she really is a great girl and i feel like i’m just being super selfish. should i stay with her and wait til i realize she’s the one? what if i break up and never meet anyone as good as her? or should i go see what else is out there and discover what i really want.

    sorry this so long

    • http://www.junloayza.com Jun Loayza

      Hey Pat, great to hear from you.

      I’ve felt the same way many times, and I feel its natural for men to feel this way. I believe the reason we feel this way is because we seek validation from other women. We want to feel wanted, we want to feel like we can still get women, and we like the attention. In this way, we’re insecure, selfish, and are at the mercy of seeking validation from others.

      To transcend this state of insecurity, men need to mature and give their all to the person they’re with. Only then will you know that the person you’re with is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

      If you’re with your girl, be with your girl. Give her EVERYTHING you have, emotionally and physically. Be the best boyfriend you can be and try your hardest to make it work. If you guys stay together for ever, then it’s meant to be. If you guys break up, then it’s because you weren’t meant for each other, and not because you didn’t try hard enough.

      Good luck.

  • Py

    Hi, I really confuse with my relationship now.

    During my mid twenty, I have a very close girl friend (Alice). We are like couple but I did not have the courage to ask her to be my girlfriend as my buddy is also interested in her. In the end, she got marry but with another guy which she does not truly have feeling with. I hate myself for not being more courage that time.

    Currently I am in my early thirty where most of my friends have settle down. Half a year ago, I know an attractive girl. I do not want to miss out this chance so I ask her to be my girlfriend after 3 months even thou I am unsure. 3 Months into the relationship, I still can’t full commit. I do not have the feeling of settling down with her. I keep wanting to look for new girls and keep having the thought of breaking up with her. As I am not young, I also afraid that I will not find a girlfriend that I like if I break up with her.
    She is a nice girl and is deeply in love with me. I keep questioning myself, if my current girlfriend is Alice, will I have the same thought. I feel that something is still missing in this relationship.

    What should I do? If I breakup with her, I afraid I will regret it a few year down the road. If I marry her, I afraid I will regret when I am old…

    • http://www.junloayza.com/ JunLoayza

      Hi Py, that’s a terrific question.

      First of all, don’t dwell on the past. Yes, you missed a great opportunity, but take it as a learning experience. Wish your friend the best and love her as a friend.

      As far as your new relationship:

      Age is nothing but a number. You are young — do not let age play a part of your decision.

      Why do you question yourself? What is it about her that you’re unsure of?

      Love is complex, yet it can be so simple at the same time. No one can tell you when you’re in love; only you know when you’re in love.

      If you have doubts, then my advice is to talk to her about it. It’s best to be open and express all of your feelings openly. Perhaps she will address your concerns or doubts and all will become better; perhaps it won’t get better. But at least you’ll know, and you won’t have doubts anymore.

  • Francisco Guetti

    I want to use this medium to tell the world about Doctor Jatto who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and i where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though i went to beg her several times to please forgive and accept me back because i know i offended her but each time i went i always feel more deeply in pain and agony because she always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what i have to tell but on i faithful day as i was browsing i came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was more than mine and yet Doctor Jatto helped her with his spell so i was happy and also contacted Doctor Jatto for help via email and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that i will wipe you tear with my spell so lucky for me everything want well just as he promised and right now i have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Doctor Jatto can not do with is spell and just as promise my self i will keep testifying on the internet of how Doctor Jatto helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less i give you 100% guarantee that Doctor Jatto will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Doctor Jatto for help Via email drjattosplltemple@gmail.com

    1. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK.
    2. WINNING LOTTERIES.
    3. CHILD BEARING.
    4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.
    5. GETTING OF JOB.
    6. JOB PROMOTION.
    7. MONEY SPELL.
    8. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.
    9. HERBAL CARE.
    10. BEAUTY SPELL.

  • Vera Morgan

    I have just found the right one and the greatest spell caster on earth who has brought back my happiness and turned my world around by helping me get my ex partner and helped me get back my life cause i was totally frustrated after 6years of hardship and pain, a friend of mine buzz me on my email saying i should cheer up cause solution has come. At first i was like what are you saying, then she mentioned the name ‘EBOEHI’ and i must thank my savior Great DR EBOEHI who has play a very vital part of my life making me a great person and the most happiest person today you are a great man who is bless by powers with traditional healing spell caster, after Great DR EBOEHI has help me get my ex back he also help me recover what i have lost in past years i must thank him (Great DR EBOEHI) the life he has restored back for me and my happiness. Now i am doing well in my work and also with my partner, Great DR EBOEHI is a very great spell caster you need to know just meet him and with your problem and it will be over.. Email him via: (supernaturalspelltemple@gmail.com)

    • Sarah Martins

      Thanks to Dr. Trust

      My name is Sarah matins. I am from Dubai i am here to spread the entire work of a real spell caster called Dr. Trust who just helped me to retrieve back my union with my husband and make our relationship very stronger and brought joy and happiness into our marriage. I have been scammed by a lot of fake spell casters but i was later introduced to Dr. Trust by a friend named tucker stacey to this great man who help her to restore her relationship back with his husband.He also help me and wipe away my tears. So viewers of this wonderful testimony who wants to contact him like:ultimatespellcast@gmail.com

      1. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK.

      2. DIVORCE SPELL.

      3. WINNING LOTTERIES.

      4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.

      5. GETTING OF JOB

      6. CHILD BEARING.

      7. MONEY SPELL.

      8. CURING OF HIV AND MANY MORE.

      9. HERBAL CARE.

      10. BEAUTY SPELL.

      11. BUSINESS CHARMS TO ENQUIRE MORE CUSTOMERS AND LOT’S MORE..

      So brothers and sisters i have tested this man DR. Trust and i have found that he is real and genuine. i am now the happiest woman on earth today, Contact his via email id and be joyful in your life.(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Tel:+23481566885231).

      More gratitude and thanks to you again the great DOCTOR.

  • nancy Alfred

    A couple of weeks ago I was in a dark period in my life, the man I love to bits had gone off with someone else, that was when I was told about this Esango Priest. Well he told me he could see that we would get back together that gave me hope, and he was right, because this week we have moved in with each other and we are so happy. A big thank you to Esango Priest. If you are in need of an angel please get in touch with my Esango Priest via email:esangopriest@gmail.com

  • Ero Lovespell

    Hi My name is ‘Bruno Rico’ just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him via eromosalspiritualtemple@gmail.com Don’t give up just yet, the different between ‘Ordinary’ & ‘Extra-Ordinary’ is the ‘Extra’ so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it…

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075.

  • Sandra Ruths

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is sandra ruths am from American. my boyfriend Slay Scot left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine kido matthew told me he saw some testimonies of this great Dr osauyi that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend is going to call me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr osauyi for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address OSAUYILOVESPELL@GMAIL.COM.com or you can call the great man on +2348100515075.,.

  • Hansford ann

    My name is Handford Ann,i base in canada.i want to share my wonderful testimony on how i got back my ex-lover of my life back, who i sworn to be with until when he left me to another woman for no reason and i try to make things work for both of us yet things where getting worse and i love him so much and there is nothing i could do to get my ex back until i met a testimony share by Maria from USA on the internet talking about a powerful spell caster who brought his ex lover back within 48hours and i decide to give it a try and to my greatest surprise he also did it for me just as he did for Maria and i have a lot of people complaining of fake spell caster but this one i met was a real spell caster who help me to solve my problem i have no solution to,i introduce many of my best friends that have a similar problems,and their problem were solve with the great help of dr.Trust.they get back their ex within 48 hours.i am so happy that my ex is back to me again,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Trust.if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face ask he did to me and others.contact email(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com call +2348156885231) what will i have done if not the great help of dr.trust. Thanks Handford Ann from canada

  • Hansford ann

    My name is Handford Ann,i base in canada.i want to share my wonderful testimony on how i got back my ex-lover of my life back, who i sworn to be with until when he left me to another woman for no reason and i try to make things work for both of us yet things where getting worse and i love him so much and there is nothing i could do to get my ex back until i met a testimony share by Maria from USA on the internet talking about a powerful spell caster who brought his ex lover back within 48hours and i decide to give it a try and to my greatest surprise he also did it for me just as he did for Maria and i have a lot of people complaining of fake spell caster but this one i met was a real spell caster who help me to solve my problem i have no solution to,i introduce many of my best friends that have a similar problems,and their problem were solve with the great help of dr.Trust.they get back their ex within 48 hours.i am so happy that my ex is back to me again,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Trust.if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face ask he did to me and others.contact email(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com call +2348156885231) what will i have done if not the great help of dr.trust. Thanks Handford Ann from canada.

  • my lover came back to me

    “M had been gone for about 18 months, I contacted the Spell man and within a few minutes of speaking with he, I realised that Dr.Obodo was the one person whom I could completely trust. Dr.Obodo began he working and within only a few days, Lee was back in my life.Here is Dr.Obodo contact details in-case you need help : templeofanswer@hotmail.co.uk , +2348155425481
    Heather – Kent,,,,

  • Elena

    Hi Jun,

    Do you believe men can find ‘the one’ from their first relationship? I personally don’t think so but I am in a relationship with a man with no previous experience. On top of the insecurity caused by this question, there are also other problems such as visa restriction, which will probably end our relationship in the future. I try not to think about the future so often. However as a girl who have had a few bad relationships before, I now just want to find ‘the one’ and get married after being in relationship for a couple of years. Sometimes it’s just very hard to sit down and enjoy what I have at the moment. We are both 21 years old.

    Elena

    • Sarah Martins

      Thanks to Dr. Trust

      My name is Sarah matins. I am from Dubai i am here to spread the entire work of a real spell caster called Dr. Trust who just helped me to retrieve back my union with my husband and make our relationship very stronger and brought joy and happiness into our marriage. I have been scammed by a lot of fake spell casters but i was later introduced to Dr. Trust by a friend named tucker stacey to this great man who help her to restore her relationship back with his husband.He also help me and wipe away my tears. So viewers of this wonderful testimony who wants to contact him like:ultimatespellcast@gmail.com

      1. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK.

      2. DIVORCE SPELL.

      3. WINNING LOTTERIES.

      4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.

      5. GETTING OF JOB.

      6. CHILD BEARING.

      7. MONEY SPELL.

      8. CURING OF HIV AND MANY MORE.

      9. HERBAL CARE.

      10. BEAUTY SPELL.

      11. BUSINESS CHARMS TO ENQUIRE MORE CUSTOMERS AND LOT’S MORE..

      So brothers and sisters i have tested this man DR. Trust and i have found that he is real and genuine. i am now the happiest woman on earth today, Contact his via email id and be joyful in your life.(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Tel:+23481566885231).

      More gratitude and thanks to you again the great DOCTOR.

  • Sarah Martins

    Thanks to Dr. Trust

    My name is Sarah matins. I am from Dubai i am here to spread the entire work of a real spell caster called Dr. Trust who just helped me to retrieve back my union with my husband and make our relationship very stronger and brought joy and happiness into our marriage. I have been scammed by a lot of fake spell casters but i was later introduced to Dr. Trust by a friend named tucker stacey to this great man who help her to restore her relationship back with his husband.He also help me and wipe away my tears. So viewers of this wonderful testimony who wants to contact him like:ultimatespellcast@gmail.com

    1. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK

    2. DIVORCE SPELL.

    3. WINNING LOTTERIES.

    4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.

    5. GETTING OF JOB.

    6. CHILD BEARING.

    7. MONEY SPELL.

    8. CURING OF HIV AND MANY MORE.

    9. HERBAL CARE.

    10. BEAUTY SPELL.

    11. BUSINESS CHARMS TO ENQUIRE MORE CUSTOMERS AND LOT’S MORE..

    So brothers and sisters i have tested this man DR. Trust and i have found that he is real and genuine. i am now the happiest woman on earth today, Contact his via email id and be joyful in your life.(ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Tel:+23481566885231).

    More gratitude and thanks to you again the great DOCTOR.

  • Vera Morgan

    I have just found the right one and the greatest spell caster on earth who has brought back my happiness and turned my world around by helping me get my ex partner and helped me get back my life cause i was totally frustrated after 6years of hardship and pain, a friend of mine buzz me on my email saying i should cheer up cause solution has come. At first i was like what are you saying, then she mentioned the name ‘EBOEHI’ and i must thank my savior Great DR EBOEHI who has play a very vital part of my life making me a great person and the most happiest person today you are a great man who is bless by powers with traditional healing spell caster, after Great DR EBOEHI has help me get my ex back he also help me recover what i have lost in past years i must thank him (Great DR EBOEHI) the life he has restored back for me and my happiness. Now i am doing well in my work and also with my partner, Great DR EBOEHI is a very great spell caster you need to know just meet him and with your problem and it will be over.. Email him via: (supernaturalspelltemple@gmail.com)

  • Dirce Ries

    I never knew people still have powers and make things happened this way. My name is Dirce Ries am from Finland. My boyfriend Charles Morgan left me for another girl for three months’ ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love who dis virgin me when i was 21 years old. about two years ago, A friend of mine Philipper Claw told me that she saw some testimonies of this great PRIEST KUVUKI that he can bring back lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, she consulted the great priest with his email { Kuvukispelltemple@hotmail.com } on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my boyfriend called me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for every thing he made me went through. I still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you PRIEST KUVUKI for bringing back my lover and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf for any one who might need the help of this great priest here is the email address { Kuvukispelltemple@hotmail.com }

  • Shakes Spear

    My Name is Dan Anelos ..I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i contact this man called shakesspear23@yahoo.com Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizing and she told me she will come back to me..I cant believe this,it was like a dream cos i never believe this will work out after trying many spell casters and there is no solution..The spell caster is so powerful and after that he helped me with a pregnancy spell and my wife got pregnant a month later..we are now happy been together again and with lovely kid..This spell caster has really changed my life and i will forever thankful to him..he has helped many friends too with similar problem too and they are happy and thankful to him..This man is indeed the most powerful spell caster have ever experienced in life..Am Posting this to the Forum in case there is anyone who has similar problem and still looking for a way out..you can reach him here:shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com… CONTACT THIS GREAT AND POWERFUL SPELL CASTER CALLED SHAKES SPEAR … HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS :shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com… CONTACT HIM NOW AND BE FAST ABOUT IT SO HE CAN ALSO ATTEND TO YOU BECAUSE THE EARLIER YOU CONTACT HIM NOW THE BETTER FOR YOU TO GET QUICK SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS…

  • Shakes Spear

    My Name is AZIBA OLUBOISE. I never believed in Love Spells or Magics until I met this special spell caster when i contact this man called shakesspear23@yahoo.com Execute some business..He is really powerful..My wife divorce me with no reason for almost 4 years and i tried all i could to have her back cos i really love her so much but all my effort did not work out.. we met at our early age at the college and we both have feelings for each other and we got married happily for 5 years with no kid and she woke up one morning and she told me she’s going on a divorce..i thought it was a joke and when she came back from work she tender to me a divorce letter and she packed all her loads from my house..i ran mad and i tried all i could to have her back but all did not work out..i was lonely for almost 4 years…So when i told the spell caster what happened he said he will help me and he asked for her full name and her picture..i gave him that..At first i was skeptical but i gave it a try cos have tried so many spell casters and there is no solution…so when he finished with the readings,he got back to me that she’s with a man and that man is the reason why she left me…The spell caster said he will help me with a spell that will surely bring her back.but i never believe all this…he told me i will see a positive result within 3 days..3 days later,she called me herself and came to me apologizingI NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS UNTIL I MET THIS WORLD’S TOP SPELL CASTER. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE’S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I’M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE WOMAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS… I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO USA, MY GIRLFRIEND(NOW WIFE) CALLED ME BY HERSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND SHE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN’T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY GIRLFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO… WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY WIFE ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS;shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com ……HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT OUR OPPORTUNITY … CONTACT THIS GREAT SPELL CASTER VIA EMAIL:shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com

  • Shakes Spear

    MY NAME IS JANICES WALLOCKS FROM HOUSTON,TEXAS.I NEVER BELIEVED IN LOVE SPELLS OR MAGIC UNTIL I MET THIS SPELL CASTER ONCE WHEN I WENT TO AFRICA IN DECEMBER LAST YEAR ON A BUSINESS SUMMIT. HE IS REALLY POWERFUL AND COULD HELP CAST SPELLS TO BRING BACK ONE’S GONE,LOST,MISBEHAVING LOVER LOOKING FOR SOME ONE TO LOVE YOU, BRING BACK LOST MONEY AND MAGIC MONEY SPELL OR SPELL FOR A GOOD JOB.I’M NOW HAPPY & A LIVING TESTIMONY COS THE MAN I HAD WANTED TO MARRY LEFT ME 2 WEEKS BEFORE OUR WEDDING AND MY LIFE WAS UPSIDE DOWN COS OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS BEEN ON FOR 2YEARS… I REALLY LOVED HIM, BUT HIS MOTHER WAS AGAINST US AND HE HAD NO GOOD PAYING JOB. SO WHEN I MET THIS SPELL CASTER, I TOLD HIM WHAT HAPPENED AND EXPLAINED THE SITUATION OF THINGS TO HIM..AT FIRST I WAS UNDECIDED,SKEPTICAL AND DOUBTFUL, BUT I JUST GAVE IT A TRY. AND IN 7 DAYS WHEN I RETURNED TO TEXAS, MY BOYFRIEND (NOW HUSBAND) CALLED ME BY HIMSELF AND CAME TO ME APOLOGIZING THAT EVERYTHING HAD BEEN SETTLED WITH HIS MOM AND FAMILY AND HE GOT A NEW JOB INTERVIEW SO WE SHOULD GET MARRIED..I DIDN’T BELIEVE IT COS THE SPELL CASTER ONLY ASKED FOR MY NAME AND MY BOYFRIENDS NAME AND ALL I WANTED HIM TO DO… WELL WE ARE HAPPILY MARRIED NOW AND WE ARE EXPECTING OUR LITTLE KID,AND MY HUSBAND ALSO GOT THE NEW JOB AND OUR LIVES BECAME MUCH BETTER. IN CASE ANYONE NEEDS THE SPELL CASTER FOR SOME HELP, HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS: shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com ……HOPE HE HELPS YOU OUT. HURRY NOW AND CONTACT HIM NOW VIA EMAIL ADDRESS:shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com.

  • Shakes Spear

    My name is Mr GOLD JOHN ,I live in Mexico,and I’m happily married with a lovely wife and three children. I had a very big problem with my wife few months ago,to the extent that she even packed her things away from me and my kids for almost 5 months,and i tried all my possible best and effort to bring her back,but all to no avail.I discussed it with a very good friend of mine,and he gave me an advice concerning a spell caster,and i quote.“There’s someone who can handle your situation,he’s always ready and able to do anything related to spell casting,i will like you to contact him with his email,which is as follows.”Shakes Spear Great Oracle Temple Solution”. I never believed in spell casting,but he convinced me and i had no choice than to follow his advice,because i never dreamt of loosing my lovely wife.And that’s how i contacted him with his email address,and i discussed with him and so surprisingly,he told me that I’ll get my wife back a day after.so i never believed,until when i got home,the next day,my wife called me to inform me that she was coming back…..So amazing!! That’s how i got my wife back through spell casting and our relationship was now stronger than how it was before.One of the price i was asked to pay was to tell it to people around me that problems like this,can always be solved by “Shakes Spear Great Oracle Temple Solution”. So! my advice for you out there is to visit this same website,and tell him your problems too,if you are in any condition related to love issue or getting your ex back,to have a happy family. THANKS…. HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS :shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com.. CONTACT HIM TODAY VIA THIS EMAIL ADDRESS: shakesspear23@yahoo.com OR shakesspear23@gmail.com AS HIS POWERS ARE SO STRONG AND VERY EFFECTIVE AND HAS NO BAD EFFECT INSTEAD IT HAVE A VERY GOOD RESULT AFTER CASTING THE SPELL.

  • sammy adin

    I was down to the lowest point in my life. I thought my heart would never heal. I found Lord. Azeez late one night and thought what have I got to lose? I ordered the Return My Lover Magick Spell and within a 3days she was BACK. I can thank him enough. Lordazeez1990@hotmail.com is the email it will be of a help to you, He is the best. Sam

  • Anonymous

    My husband and I have been together for about five years. last month we got into an argument because i caught him cheating, i was heartbroken and i used to love him with all my heart, I was about to leave and asked him what’s on his agenda and he just ignored me. I got mad and cursed him out and left. He said that I am jealous and insecure which is a recurring theme in our arguments. i tried everything to repair our relationship but nothing came alright, luckily enough i was browsing on the internet and i saw testimony of clients who talked about Mr Robinson buckler and also i saw his email address robinsonbuckler@yahoo.com, i thought may be its also one of the scamming spell caster, but my heart was restless until i contacted him and i used his spell and it worked so nice, his spell made my husband to take me back as his wife, it also made my husband to love me more, anyone who want his or her lover back should contact robinsonbuckler or call him + 19715126745 him

  • Alexendria Alex

    I was IN A relationship with an arrogant self centered man for 4 year and had no idea of the kind of man i was living with. What am about to write now, is not a mistake its something am proud of cos i will never stand to see some irresponsible man rise my child. Until now i use to say i am the strongest woman on earth i mean no matter what a man throws at my face in a relationship i will always not let it affect me. Well i was wrong when you have a child with that man every thing he does that is not in your interest hurt you so bad that it feels like your heart is bleeding not cos of you something but mostly because of your child. The name i’m using here is a fictional name cos i don’t want anybody talking about me. Mike and i,were together for four years and we had a child a son together but we weren’t married. Our relationship was just as fun as it usually is in the dating stage i mean we went dates we text all night he call me on the phone just to tell me i love you. It was the best moment of my life aside from the birth of my son and he was right there with me in the labor room when i put to birth he never left my side i mean my life was a fairy tale with the happily ever after theme. When i look back now i ask myself why?Why did he go through all that trouble when really he didn’t love me as he use to say. It was hard for me cos he went from being perfect to being ruthless he made sure i knew he was cheating on me with another b**ch and went i was tried to go away with my son, he threatening to take him away for me that i came with nothing and and also leaving with nothing . I wish i can put this in film to make it more clear for you guy i mean he made me pass through hell. And he was really going to take my son from me cos he was wealthy and the law was on his side cos i had nothing to offer my son i mean i work three job and hardly had time for myself he used that against and i was losing cos i could not even afford a lawyer. Everything was spinning out of hand. All i had with me was the hate and pain in my heart i would stay up all night crying my eyes out cos i had nothing to do. But like they say a desperate woman is a dangerous one. In my quest for help on how to make the scum bag stay away form me and my son i contacted a spell casted i found online i have seen a couple of good remark about him and some most highly recommended him as the best in spell casting. Like i say am proud of what i did if wanting to be with your son by all mean necessary is crazy then i am crazy to have contacted Mutton Osun the spell caster. It made me calm when mutton osun told me he can help me and that he was not going to charge me but how ever he asked me to get the materials we use for the spell and i also paid for the delivery of the parcel he sent me with instruction of how to make the spell effective. Just weeks after i did what he asked me Mike dropped all the case and left the country with his new b**ch i didn’t really care cos i had my baby that is alright for me though i love him i don’t want a monster as a husband or a father of my child so i let him go. I highly recommend you contact Mutton Osun for help if you need any on his email godsofosunx@rocketmail.com

  • Andrea Monica

    My name is Andrea Monica.i am here to testify on how Dr.Zaba helped me. I saw a post on a particular site sharing testimony on how these great spell caster brought back her ex. Initially, i thought the post is unreal but I later had a second thought and another person still share his testimony on how he brought back his wife.so i contacted the spell caster as instructed by the post. I have no option than to try my best because my husband left me with my three kids for another woman after a minor misunderstanding. Me and my husband got married over six years and we lived so happily. At a certain time my husband started behaving strange.Before I knew what was going on, he left me and go for another woman who works in the same office with him. When I saw the post, I contacted the spell caster on his email and he told me not to worry that my husband will come back to me in two days time once he finish casting the reunite spell. To my greatest surprise, my husband came back to me begging for a second chance.and we are living happily together as one family again. I want to use this medium to let everyone here know that this is real and if you are out there having this same problem please kindly contact Dr.Zaba, the great spell caster via his email {Makiaderspelltemple@hotmail.com}because he can done the unexpected.Wish you all the Best too! his website http://makiaderspelltemple.webs.com

  • Andrea Monica

    My name is Andrea Monica.i am here to testify on how Dr.Zaba helped me. I saw a post on a particular site sharing testimony on how these great spell caster brought back her ex. Initially, i thought the post is unreal but I later had a second thought and another person still share his testimony on how he brought back his wife.so i contacted the spell caster as instructed by the post. I have no option than to try my best because my husband left me with my three kids for another woman after a minor misunderstanding. Me and my husband got married over six years and we lived so happily. At a certain time my husband started behaving strange.Before I knew what was going on, he left me and go for another woman who works in the same office with him. When I saw the post, I contacted the spell caster on his email and he told me not to worry that my husband will come back to me in two days time once he finish casting the reunite spell. To my greatest surprise, my husband came back to me begging for a second chance.and we are living happily together as one family again. I want to use this medium to let everyone here know that this is real and if you are out there having this same problem please kindly contact Dr.Zaba, the great spell caster via his email {Makiaderspelltemple@hotmail.com}because he can done the unexpected.Wish you all the Best too! his website http://makiaderspelltemple.webs.com

  • Dirce Ries

    Hello everyone my name is Dirce Ries from Finland, i never ever believed in spell until i meet a man called PRIEST KUVUKI, who helped me cast a spell that brought back my ex-lover to me within 48 hours. PRIEST KUVUKI spells works beyond my imaginations and today i am happily married me and my ex-lover are now husband and wife. What more can i say rather than to say thank you PRIEST KUVUKI for been there for me, contact PRIEST KUVUKI today and your life will never ever remain the same.YOU CAN CONTACT PRIEST KUVUKI VIA EMAIL: Kuvukispelltemple@hotmail.com

  • Maria Johan

    My name is maria johan from malaysia. My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 10 years older than him,i feel like my life is completely over. I read over the internet how a spell caster have help several people to get there love back. I have been depress for the past one month and what i need is to get him back and live with him happily. so i decided to give it a try so i contacted the spell caster called Dr.Trust and explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell which i use to get my boyfriend back and now my life is complete and both of us are very happy with the relationship. and i am throughly grateful to this man,his contact email is ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Thank you very much and i am extremely greatful Tel: +2348156885231.And there is know evil attach to his spell.it will only make your relationship very stronger.

  • Maria Johan

    My name is maria johan from malaysia. My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 10 years older than him,i feel like my life is completely over. I read over the internet how a spell caster have help several people to get there love back. I have been depress for the past one month and what i need is to get him back and live with him happily. so i decided to give it a try so i contacted the spell caster called Dr.Trust and explain my problems to him and he cast a love spell which i use to get my boyfriend back and now my life is complete and both of us are very happy with the relationship. and i am throughly grateful to this man,his contact email is ultimatespellcast@gmail.com or ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com Thank you very much and i am extremely greatful Tel: +2348156885231.And there is know evil attach to his spell.it will only make your relationship very stronger.

  • Gloribel Stancy

    My husband has abandon me and the kids for the the past 8months now, and refuse to come back because he was hold on by a woman whom he just met, for that, my self and the kids has been suffering and it has been heel of a struggle, but I decide to do all means to make sure that my family come together as it use to, then I went online there I saw so many good talk about this spell caster whose email is omofumaspelltemple@gmail.com so I had to contact him and explain my problem to him and in just 3days as he has promised, my husband came home and his behavior was back to the man i got married to. I cant thank the spell caster enough for what he did for me, i am so grateful and i will never stop to publish his name on the internet for the good work he has done for me,once again his email is omofumaspelltemple@gmail.com

  • Lyev Mahrk

    Being attracted to the same sex in countries like USA,UK Canada is really easily as i have heard.There are still people there who don’t like people like us but it not as bad as that of Russia cos here we are beaten jailed and sometimes even killed.You can’t hold the hand of the one you care about in the public so as to avoid been harassed we can even set a place to me cos if we are caught we face jail time.Here in Russia we gay are prisoner in our own country.I am currently in a relation with my fiance and we had to leave Russia to be together.Before now his parent were against our relationship cos they had no idea he was gay we sneaked around knowing the risks if we were to be caught.When he finally got heart to tell him family the rejected him and asked he stops seeing me or they were going to turn him in and that scared him a lot his father is a very powerful man in Russia and he made it possible for him not to be able to live the country i mean as long as you have money in Russia anything goes.I was lucky they never got to meet me cos if they did i would have not been here right now writing this article that you are all reading.Probably i would have been in jail.Months passed and there was no way we could see each other cos they had him watched to make sure he is never get to meet me and also to know the person the was he was practicing this profane act with as they called it.They stripped him of all his right to the family assets and made him an outcast i could see he was suffering form the text he was sending me they made his life miserable and made him end our relationship.I knew he was confused and did know what to do to get his life back to make his family see him the way they use to.And i knew that his family were never going to accept his life style cos they are so anti gay.If they were to be a fund riser to fight gay practice in Russia his family will be the first to ask that they host it.I love him so much but he was scared of him family and they also had a grip on him.I know most person don’t believe in what about to say but still if it wasn’t for Mutton Osun a spell caster that i found on the internet i would not have been writing this.It happened maybe by a slim chance or fate that i was a blog were it happened that i read three distinct comment about how he help them with similar problem.I contacted him with an email address that was in the comment.I asked Mutton Osun to cast a spell to make my then boyfriend to make up his mind to run away from Russia with me to be together and also his family as in his father to make it possible for him to leave Russia with me and set a very comfortable life for us were we were going.And i know doing spells with someone you can’t even see is outrageous but i promise you he makes you feel more at else when he calls and he really goes through with his promise cos he did with mine he was really helpful to him and kind.And like other people said he doesn’t even charge you for what he is doing for you.I had to provide some list of materials that he asked that i get for my spell casting.I preferred that i sent the money down to him cos they were not easy to find and even when i found them it was so expensive but he could get them cheaply.He instructed me on how to make the spell work with great effect.It took 7 seven day and night to see it result.On the seventh night my boyfriend call me to tell me we could finally be together cos his father did agreed to do all i asked mutton osun to make him do i just knew at once it was Mutton Osun spell cos it what i asked for and now me and fiance are the happiest right now we can hold hand now without fear of being harassed or sent to jail for we are in love and we are very comfortable here.His father made sure everything was set before we even got here just like i asked it should be.Am going to also leave Mutton Osun email here just like others have done for contact purpose godsofosunx@rocketmail.com

  • http://FACEBOOK.COM Vivian Wyane

    Contact Prophet Iyayi, for any kind of problem…

    I wish i have found this spell caster earlier
    before spending my money on spell without result.His powers are really
    amazing and i enjoyed the satisfaction i gained from using his spell. He
    is really gifted with powers to help people with their various
    problems. His contact is
    prophetiyayilovespell@gmail.com

  • Harmand Amadeus

    My Name is Harmand Amadeus from California. I am here to give testimony on how got my wife back. My wife left me for no reason 3 years ago. She moved out with another man, i felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then 1 day, a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and does not even charge for his services, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won. I didn’t believe it because I’ve worked with so many of them and it didn’t work. He begged me further so i decided to try this great spell caster called DR. OTIAGBE and i contacted him via his email: {Otiagbe@yahoo.com}. I still didn’t believe. I used the spell he gave me and the next day i received a call from my darling wife called Rugina last month. She apologized and came back to me. I’m very happy now. Thank you DR. OTIAGBE, You can reach him via email: {Otiagbe@yahoo.com}

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  • BRUNELDA NATO

    Probably all this testimony you read about spell casting online are spam right?And yeah some are spam some think all of them are spam which is totally not bad and i also know some believe spell casting really works but have not been able to find the right one. Well i think i found the right spell caster Metodo. I know he is real not cos he helped me but because i was there in his temple i Have seen him and his temple and i tell you it can’t get more really that what am writing now. I know you may want to know why and what lead me to contact a spell caster i am a south African woman here in south African as a matter of fact in Africa having a male child is like the most important thing in a marriage and it turned out that i am married to a very traditional man as in a he believes the male child carry the family name on and on but the females get married and change there name which is true. I were married for six years and i had no male child for him. Maybe friends and family filled his head with a lot of things like i don’t have a male child for him and as a result he need to get a divorce and get another wife that can bear him a male child. I always thought the people that filled his head with this ideas where is family and friends the people that i smile and dine with. The very people who ought to have advice him rightly. I never found out if they where involved in wanting to ruin life and my marriage. Not because i could not find out but cost i didn’t want to develop hatred for them cos i will always get to see them and it is not really healthy seeing the faces of people you hate. At that time, i mean before i knew my husband got himself a lover i was paranoid about him having a lover cos our lives changed a lot he starting coming home late he wouldn’t touch me any more and even he started avoiding me in our home making up excuses to stay all day in his study room doing nothing and telling me his need something off to clear his head. We had fights all the time i brought up the matter if he was see someone else. Maybe he got tired of lying i don’t know he finally asked for a divorce. A divorce my family saw him through his university and got him a got job i told myself and now he’s asking me for a divorce cos i don’t a male child yet for him. He was ready to let go of his three beautiful daughters he asked that i take them along. Maybe he was a real f**l and didn’t know what he had and maybe he didn’t deserve someone like me but one thing was crystal clear to me i was still in love with him and i wanted a complete family for my kid that and the fact that i raised him from the gutter i didn’t care about any of his problem when i married him and i forgot to say my father never approved our marriage but still i jumped into it thinking we are going to have each other forever. Though we are still together now but its cos of the spell i had metodo cast on him to make him see how much he needs me in this life. When i contacted metodo he asked that i get the materials for the spell which i did and delivered the materials to him in person that is to say i came in contact with him. I was to return in to his temple in 7 seven day and within those seven day he gave me a blessed a red candle asking that i command and say whatever i wanted every night within those seven days which i did on the seventh day when i returned to metodo temple he gave a harmless powerful substance with instruction on how to use it. This might seem like fiction or lie or what ever you lucky reads may think but deep down you know it true you just looking for a way not to get involved. I ve got my husband back and my family life couldn’t be better thanks to the spell though i don’t have a male child for him at least his them lover bore him one. contact him with his email if you want his help metodoacamufortress @ yahoo. com

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