6 Reasons Why People are Dishonest
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Would I have blown the whistle on myself? I feel that I am an honest person: I tell the truth, do not cheat, and try to be the best person that I can be. When I read about what JP Hayes did this week, I asked myself the question, “Would I have done the same thing?” Hayes accidentally used an illegal ball for only two shots of his qualifying round. He didn’t turn himself in at the tournament; rather, he notified judges after he got back to his hotel. No one would have found out, yet he disqualified himself. Why?
I thought about this for a while, and found that people are dishonest because of the following reasons or influences:
1. Laziness
Lazy people like to take the easy way out. Just think back to your high school days and the amount of cheating that went on. You had friends, girls (or guys), sports, and TV to think about; who actually had the time to study? People who are unmotivated and want things to come easy will take the dishonesty route.
2. Don’t have the skills
People who don’t have the skills need to cheat to get ahead or keep up with the rest. We see this all the time in sports: baseball players take steroids, China uses 13 year-olds for the Olympics, and football coaches tape opponent practices. It must be devastating to devote your entire life to a sport, only to find that you naturally just can’t measure up to your competitors. Instead of being true themselves, they choose to cheat because of a lust for fortune and fame.
3. Peer pressure
My Dad once told me, “Tell me who you hang out with, and I’ll tell you who you are.” These words have resonated with me throughout my life, and I have surrounded myself with people who are honest, motivated, and intelligent. But what about people who grew up with dishonest friends? Is it their fault that they’re dishonest as well? I am one who promotes that an individual is ultimately responsible for his or her own decisions, but I do feel that we are a product of our surroundings. Peer pressure can make a weak individual do dishonest things.
4. Greed
If JP Hayes had cheated, he would have been a victim of greed. He has money, fame, and is an accomplished golf professional. He doesn’t need the money at all and not making it into the tournament would not have been the end of the world. However, some people are greedy and want to make as much money as they can. They crave the attention and want to be in the lime light.
5. Financial situation
When you’re broke, you think of any way to make money. If you have to commit dishonest action to make money, then you do it because of necessity. Well, I shouldn’t say “necessity” because there are always ways to survive financially in an honest way. These people just choose dishonesty because they want the easy way out.
6. Confused morals
If you’re brought up by dishonest parents, then you have a high chance of being dishonest as well. I had a friend from UCLA who cheated his way through his entire life:
- He lied on his UCLA application by putting 100’s of hours of community service when he really had none
- He cheated on every single test
- He lied on his resume by writing he had founded companies he never started
- He even tried to cheat us out of rent money! (Yes, the guy was my roommate)
The funniest thing was that he thought everything he did was perfectly normal! He didn’t care if it was honest or not; he just did what he thought was necessary to progress in life.
So the answer is clear. JP Hayes did not cheat because he was NOT influenced by the 6 points above.
- He is not lazy because he has been practicing and playing golf all of his life
- He does have the skills because he has previously one a big tournament
- His peers are honest golfers, so it was pretty much positive peer pressure
- He showed he wasn’t greedy because he disqualified himself
- He has a lot of money, so he wasn’t in a bad financial situation
- I don’t know about his parents, but I’ll bet they were honest people as well
So why the post? If we understand and comfront these 6 reasons for dishonesty, we can all become more honest people.
Most people have no moral center. In such people’s minds, the only good is what benefits them, the only bad is what gets in between them and what they want. How their actions affect others or society in general doesn’t figure into it, it’s all just ego and id. They would kill people to get what they want if they thought they could get away with it, and sometimes they do take that risk. They never show remorse until they get caught, because remorse is the thing, again, that might get them what they want i.e. their freedoms back. Then there’s other people who have morality but no critical thinking ability, and confuse “legal” with “moral” and “illegal” with “immoral” as if the two concepts had anything to do with one another. The sad thing is that the few decent human beings in this world who try to live by the golden rule eventually find themselves having to be just as selfish as the bad people, because if they practice goodwill and selflessness the self-centered masses will take everything from them and give nothing back but disrespect. being a good and you’ll get treated like a chump. be a selfish, ruthless piece of crap and you’ll have lots of adoring fans.
I disagree with the statement that most people have no moral center. I think most, if not all people have a strong moral center, but they are too scared to use it. This could be because of peer pressure, fear of getting caught doing something they shouldn’t be doing, or any number of other reasons. I’m sure there are some people who do, in fact, have the type of mind set you described, but it is crazy to think that most people are wired that way.