I don’t have a F@cking Talent!!!

Acoustic guitar up close
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My brother is an amazing artist with so much potential.  He plays the guitar, sings, and is very good looking.  If I had his talent, I would record myself playing my music, put it up on my website for all to see, and teach people how to play all the songs I play.  I would hussle my ass off to get gigs, sponsors, and use all of my social media savvy to make a name for myself online.  If only I had his talent…

Do you find yourself in this position?  Are you watching Gary Vaynerchuk videos and wishing you had his charisma?  Are you reading Zen Habits and wishing that you had an authority in personal development?

If this is you, then stop it right now!  Just f@cking stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it!

Easier said than done right?

After all, what is my authority?  Can it be social media?  Everyone and their mom is talking about how to use social media for personal or professional use.  This is such a hot topic that is overly saturated and there are much more experienced people than me writing about it.  There is no way I can compete against them.

What is my authority?  Can it be entrepreneurship?  I have not had a successful company yet and have only been an entrepreneur for 1.5 years.  What authority do I really have?  Is my advice more valuable than all of the other successful entrepreneurs out there?  Does my advice even have any validity to it?

It’s frustrating.  What do I do when I have no talent and no authority?  What do I do when I don’t really have any interesting hobbies that I can turn into a business?

The Trap

Life used to be so simple.  I just played everything by the book.  I would get good grades, do my homework, take a part-time job, and do extra-curricular activities.  My goal was to get a great, stable career after graduating and work my way to the top.

It happened.

I worked hard throughout my life to get a $55,000 job as a consultant coming out of graduation.  My mom was so proud; I felt so empty inside.  Is this all that there is to life?  A 60 hour work week and 2 weeks vacation a year?

I was trapped by my simple, stable life.  I wanted more.  I needed more.  So I decided to step aside from the corporate world and go full-time entrepreneur.

No Talent

I studied Economics; I hated Economics.  I didn’t study literature or language, which means that my writing is mediocre at best.  I never had a camera while growing up so I didn’t develop an early interest in photography or film.  I can’t sing, dance, or play any intruments well, so a career in music is out the door.

The question still stands.  I am like most of you who have a blog, want to develop an authority, but don’t have a clue what it can be.

What do we do!

Stop F@cking Complaining and do something about it

I am a hardcore A-type personality.  I worry every single moment of my life about money, success, and how I’m going to give my family and girlfriend the life that they deserve.  I get extremely depressed at least once a week because the pressure gets to me.  My family is waiting on me to become successful and make a lot of money.  I have a HUGE weight on my shoulder and it becomes unbearable at times.

When it’s just too much for me to handle, I go to the bathroom mirror and take a long, deep look at myself.  “WTF are you going to do?” I ask myself.  “How the hell are you going to make something out of yourself.”

The motivation to go on can only come from within.

It is at this moment while staring at myself in the mirror that I realize it is all up to me.  Complaining, whining, wishing, and thinking about “what if’s” isn’t going to improve my situation.  “If only I could sing”; “if only I had a talent in cooking”; “if only I was more charismatic.”

Shut up!  Wishing for these things to come true is NOT going to make them happen.  You have to work with what you’ve got.

This is what you do

If you’re like me, then you DO have some talents:

  • You’re an A-type personality that won’t rest until you make something out of yourself
  • You can spend all day working because it is your place of zen
  • You have a strong business mind and are constantly thinking of new business ideas

These are my three talents and I will use them to their fullest.  I am going to start as many companies as possible and work on them night and day until one of them succeeds.  I am going to write and vlog about my companies so that I can teach each one of you what to do, and more importantly, what NOT to do.  I am going to work, work, and then work some more until finally one of my companies has become successful.

This is my talent.

No, I can’t sing, dance, or play the Ukelele; I CAN work until my heart stops beating.

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Jun Loayza

Jun Loayza is the Chief Growth Officer at Bunny Inc. In his startup experience, he has sold 2 technology companies and raised $1M in angel funding. Jun lives in San Francisco, CA with his wife Kim.

12 thoughts on “I don’t have a F@cking Talent!!!”

  1. I’m pretty type A too so I know what you mean about that restlessness to constantly be doing something and making something out of yourself.

    Love your work ethic though. You’ll do great things, I’m sure 🙂

  2. I think you are also persuasive and have good oratory skills- being persuasive and getting people to like you is an invaluable skill. I’m sure it will help you get funded and get tons of free intern work down the road 😉

    Besides, good looking people don’t need talents. Just marry rich lol

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  3. I wouldn’t have guessed that you of all people sometimes fall into moments of despair. That’s pretty encouraging to me.

    The biggest irony of this post is when you said “if only I was more charismatic.” What?! You’ve got to be the most charismatic person I’ve ever met. Seriously. When you need motivation, you look in the mirror. When I need motivation, I read your blog, haha.

  4. Isn’t that somewhat contradictory though? You had enough of your work and life, so instead… you’re going to work more?

    Not that I’m trying to discourage you, I’m but a lowly Type A, I’m just looking for answers.

  5. Hey Sol, I must admit that sometimes I do have my periods where I’m tired of no work and life balance. However, I am an emotional guy, and these are the times when the company is at a standstill.

    My A-type personality means I’m only happy when I’m constantly doing things and progressing in life. So my”talent,” is pretty much my ability to work feverishly without stop until I see results.

    I’m actually starting a business with my gf who has a very relaxed and chill personality. We’ll see how that goes…

  6. I was just reading this completely randomly, and it was so inspiring. I think all your thoughts in this are very motivating. Thanks :]

  7. Hi,

    i could relate to each and everything you said said and its the first time i felt,ya these are my talents.Thanks a ton dude !!

  8. Hi Jun,
    I came across your blog a few days back and have enjoyed reading all the posts I’ve read so far. It’s very inspirational to see someone else like you make it.

    I’d been thinking of writing to you to ask for pointers for people who just don’t have “it”!Like, everyone cannot start up a company, and everyone cannot get their dream job. What about those mediocre ones?

    In your case, you at least know that you are real hard-working and you are analytical and business minded. What if you want to do business, you want to work hard but just don’t have the analytical brains for it?

    Like me! I was very smart academically and performed well overall. Over the years of meeting people smarter and more successful, I’ve lost my confidence. I assume you feel it too sometimes. how do you deal with those situations?

    would love to know about your take on this.

  9. I completely understand the fear that nothing we have is good enough.

    Excellent job of reframing though!

    I’m not sure if Tara will see this-

    Tara-can you remember the times when you felt most happy, confident, secure?
    What about those times are similar? How can you use this knowledge to spread that value to others?


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