Comments on: Women: A Hero’s Grave http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/ Become successful through sheer tenacity, drive, and working intelligently Fri, 12 Mar 2010 10:56:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Jun Loayza http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-748 Jun Loayza Sun, 19 Oct 2008 02:19:53 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-748 Hey Tony, I am very lucky that my girlfriend understands my life style. I'm telling you, you gotta make it out here to Hollywood. I'll introduce you to some really "nice" friends - Jun Hey Tony, I am very lucky that my girlfriend understands my life style.

I’m telling you, you gotta make it out here to Hollywood. I’ll introduce you to some really “nice” friends

- Jun

]]> By: Tony Tonev http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-747 Tony Tonev Sun, 19 Oct 2008 01:02:18 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-747 This is so true. The picture made me laugh. I've been notorious for letting the city burn, while I romance away at times. Sounds like you've been able to strike that balance pretty well. This is so true. The picture made me laugh. I’ve been notorious for letting the city burn, while I romance away at times. Sounds like you’ve been able to strike that balance pretty well.

]]> By: Lefty http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-92 Lefty Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:18:15 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-92 I think you have an interesting point here. There’s truth in love sometimes “distracting” you from your business goals, but at the same time, I work at a nursing home, and not one of those elderly individuals look back to when they made that great deal at work. They look back to when they were cuddling with their significant other. It’s all about what your priorities are. And like you said, hopefully you can have a situation where you can succeed in both spheres. I think you have an interesting point here. There’s truth in love sometimes “distracting” you from your business goals, but at the same time, I work at a nursing home, and not one of those elderly individuals look back to when they made that great deal at work. They look back to when they were cuddling with their significant other. It’s all about what your priorities are.
And like you said, hopefully you can have a situation where you can succeed in both spheres.

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Tiffany Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:17:36 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-91 It can be quite difficult to maintain a balance between a career and your love. My fiance and I work closely together in ensuring that we help each other with all of our endeavors. We also have a son so it becomes a juggle to make sure that we have time as a couple, a family and just for ourselves. I totally understand what you mean though about not wanting to leave your honey. I sometimes wake up not wanting to go to work because his arms are so comfortable around me. But I think its awesome that you have someone who sees your ambition as a strength rather than a relationship inhibitor. Good luck with everything! It can be quite difficult to maintain a balance between a career and your love. My fiance and I work closely together in ensuring that we help each other with all of our endeavors. We also have a son so it becomes a juggle to make sure that we have time as a couple, a family and just for ourselves. I totally understand what you mean though about not wanting to leave your honey. I sometimes wake up not wanting to go to work because his arms are so comfortable around me. But I think its awesome that you have someone who sees your ambition as a strength rather than a relationship inhibitor. Good luck with everything!

]]> By: Jason http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-90 Jason Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:16:58 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-90 At the end of the day, a business is just a business. It’s not going to offer support when things go wrong, celebrate with you when you triumph, tell you unpleasant truths you need to hear, or other things that your love will. There’s millions of tales of enterpreneurs who sacrificed all for their dreams of success, only to leave a trail of broken hearts and families in their wake. The old slogan, “Nobody lay on their deathbed, wishing they’d spent more time at work” is still true today. “There are countless times when I force myself not to go out with my girlfriend or when I force myself to get out of bed when we’re cuddling.” You may see it as self-discipline, but it can also be interpreted as a sign of disrespect. If it’s really love, you’ll find the time to be with her and not be forced to drag yourself away from her arms when she wants to express her love for you. Be careful to keep such episodes to a minimum. Time management is going to be crucial. And what happens if she is not only supportive, but actually wants to participate in helping shape your dream into reality? If this is so important to you, I can imagine she would want to participate in it as well. That’s going to open up another can of worms. Just a few thoughts. At the end of the day, a business is just a business. It’s not going to offer support when things go wrong, celebrate with you when you triumph, tell you unpleasant truths you need to hear, or other things that your love will.

There’s millions of tales of enterpreneurs who sacrificed all for their dreams of success, only to leave a trail of broken hearts and families in their wake. The old slogan, “Nobody lay on their deathbed, wishing they’d spent more time at work” is still true today.

“There are countless times when I force myself not to go out with my girlfriend or when I force myself to get out of bed when we’re cuddling.”

You may see it as self-discipline, but it can also be interpreted as a sign of disrespect. If it’s really love, you’ll find the time to be with her and not be forced to drag yourself away from her arms when she wants to express her love for you. Be careful to keep such episodes to a minimum. Time management is going to be crucial.

And what happens if she is not only supportive, but actually wants to participate in helping shape your dream into reality? If this is so important to you, I can imagine she would want to participate in it as well. That’s going to open up another can of worms.

Just a few thoughts.

]]> By: Monica http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-89 Monica Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:16:43 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-89 Jun, great article. I get so annoyed when people use their careers as an excuse for why they don’t have meaningful relationships, or vice versa. If you can’t have a successful career and a successful home life the problem is your time management skills. Jun, great article. I get so annoyed when people use their careers as an excuse for why they don’t have meaningful relationships, or vice versa. If you can’t have a successful career and a successful home life the problem is your time management skills.

]]> By: Vanessa http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-88 Vanessa Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:14:08 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-88 In some ways, I think that it is a false choice to pit love against entrepreneurship. Both experience add and reinforce your strengths in the other. I don’t think that it is necessary to have them be all or nothing. In some ways, I think that it is a false choice to pit love against entrepreneurship. Both experience add and reinforce your strengths in the other. I don’t think that it is necessary to have them be all or nothing.

]]> By: Beth http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-87 Beth Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:13:34 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-87 I think that this applies to not just the entrepreneurial types. The summer I was a lawyer and a girlfriend at the same time I was completely at my wits end. But maybe that is because I tend to try to be really good at everything, and it is hard to do both when they place demands on the same hours of the day. I don’t know if you can be 100% into giving your significant other all you can and 100% into your career. And then have all of life’s other obligations/do anything else. There aren’t that many percentage points to go around ;) I think that this applies to not just the entrepreneurial types. The summer I was a lawyer and a girlfriend at the same time I was completely at my wits end. But maybe that is because I tend to try to be really good at everything, and it is hard to do both when they place demands on the same hours of the day. I don’t know if you can be 100% into giving your significant other all you can and 100% into your career. And then have all of life’s other obligations/do anything else. There aren’t that many percentage points to go around ;)

]]> By: Holly http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Holly Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:13:08 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-86 Oh, I totally feel ya. I’m three months into a new relationship and everything’s gone to hell. I kept a rigorously packed schedule, and now I do so little I feel guilty even saying I have a business. Your post reminds me that the onus is on me. My significant other is incredibly supportive, and my entrepreneurial spirit is a big part of why he fell in love with me. I’m the one who’s become lazy. Thanks for the kick in the pants! Oh, I totally feel ya. I’m three months into a new relationship and everything’s gone to hell. I kept a rigorously packed schedule, and now I do so little I feel guilty even saying I have a business.

Your post reminds me that the onus is on me. My significant other is incredibly supportive, and my entrepreneurial spirit is a big part of why he fell in love with me. I’m the one who’s become lazy. Thanks for the kick in the pants!

]]> By: Bart http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/women-a-heros-grave/comment-page-1/#comment-85 Bart Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:12:45 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=136#comment-85 I agree that your significant other needs to completely support you in your quest for you to be successful. But without a supportive significant other, there are all kinds of other things to distract heroes, many of which are much worse than loving arms to welcome him/her home at night. I actually gave up entrepreneurship (full-time entr., that is) because my wife just doesn’t trust it. She likes a steady paycheck. Luckily, I’m a pretty flexible person who decided going the corporate route would be just as worthwhile, though with different pros and cons. I agree that your significant other needs to completely support you in your quest for you to be successful.

But without a supportive significant other, there are all kinds of other things to distract heroes, many of which are much worse than loving arms to welcome him/her home at night.

I actually gave up entrepreneurship (full-time entr., that is) because my wife just doesn’t trust it. She likes a steady paycheck. Luckily, I’m a pretty flexible person who decided going the corporate route would be just as worthwhile, though with different pros and cons.

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