Comments on: Technology is interfering with relationships http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/ Become successful through sheer tenacity, drive, and working intelligently Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:57:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: nursing schools http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-35348 nursing schools Thu, 15 Jul 2010 02:57:49 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-35348 This is such a great resource that you are providing and you give it away for free. I enjoy seeing websites that understand the value of providing a prime resource for free. I truly loved reading your post. Thanks! This is such a great resource that you are providing and you give it away for free. I enjoy seeing websites that understand the value of providing a prime resource for free. I truly loved reading your post. Thanks!

]]> By: JunLoayza http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-945 JunLoayza Tue, 28 Oct 2008 22:06:56 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-945 Hey Christien, your tips are pretty solid. I might have to use them for a follow up post and link you to it. I've tried strategy number 5, but I just end up falling asleep :P Hey Christien, your tips are pretty solid. I might have to use them for a follow up post and link you to it.

I’ve tried strategy number 5, but I just end up falling asleep :P

]]> By: Christien http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-943 Christien Tue, 28 Oct 2008 21:36:22 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-943 Yeah, I'm in a similar spot but with a fiancee. I know at times I can't sleep because there is so much running around in my head. I will say this: 1) Be thankful that she is supportive and gets it. I've dated the ones that don't get it, and it's just frustrating. 2) If she doesn't want it bad enough to do the work (social media, personal brand stuff, etc), then you can't force it. I've had this experience with more than one gf. You just have to swallow it. 3) You see tech as work and fun in one. Women (b/c I've only dated women) don't always see technology as fun. They see it as work. One ex would never touch a computer once she left work because she felt like she was working. 4) If you need to be left alone but need to make it seem like it is her idea to go away, then start quoting movies. They hate this...haha. 5) If she's mad b/c you won't literally get in bed with her at 1125pm, then get in bed, wait 10 minutes, she falls asleep, then slowly vacate yourself from the premises. Oh, and good work with Flikr, but twitter may too big of a leap right now. It takes awhile to realize the benefit. Maybe get her to start her own YT fashion channel. ;-> Good Luck! CL Yeah, I’m in a similar spot but with a fiancee. I know at times I can’t sleep because there is so much running around in my head. I will say this:

1) Be thankful that she is supportive and gets it. I’ve dated the ones that don’t get it, and it’s just frustrating.
2) If she doesn’t want it bad enough to do the work (social media, personal brand stuff, etc), then you can’t force it. I’ve had this experience with more than one gf. You just have to swallow it.
3) You see tech as work and fun in one. Women (b/c I’ve only dated women) don’t always see technology as fun. They see it as work. One ex would never touch a computer once she left work because she felt like she was working.
4) If you need to be left alone but need to make it seem like it is her idea to go away, then start quoting movies. They hate this…haha.
5) If she’s mad b/c you won’t literally get in bed with her at 1125pm, then get in bed, wait 10 minutes, she falls asleep, then slowly vacate yourself from the premises.

Oh, and good work with Flikr, but twitter may too big of a leap right now. It takes awhile to realize the benefit. Maybe get her to start her own YT fashion channel. ;->

Good Luck!
CL

]]> By: Adam http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-919 Adam Mon, 27 Oct 2008 16:38:55 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-919 It sounds to me like she wants you to be present. Not just to physically colocated, but participatory and connected to the moment. It's something I'm not always the best at either (I can still drive my wife nuts by constantly checking my blackberry for no reason on an occasional basis), but it's something I want to do. I think your plan of asking her if there's anything she'd like to share with you is a good one, but a big part of it then becomes you being able to fully participate in that as well, not just attending while staying just as connected. I know, the benefit to today's mobile technology is that we can always be connected, but can doesn't always mean should. It sounds to me like she wants you to be present. Not just to physically colocated, but participatory and connected to the moment.

It’s something I’m not always the best at either (I can still drive my wife nuts by constantly checking my blackberry for no reason on an occasional basis), but it’s something I want to do.

I think your plan of asking her if there’s anything she’d like to share with you is a good one, but a big part of it then becomes you being able to fully participate in that as well, not just attending while staying just as connected.

I know, the benefit to today’s mobile technology is that we can always be connected, but can doesn’t always mean should.

]]> By: JunLoayza http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-880 JunLoayza Sat, 25 Oct 2008 18:47:20 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-880 Yea, she wants be a part of her cuddling and TV life!!! hahaha... I'll go ask her right now if there is anything in her life that she would like to introduce me to Yea, she wants be a part of her cuddling and TV life!!! hahaha…

I’ll go ask her right now if there is anything in her life that she would like to introduce me to

]]> By: A.J. http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-878 A.J. Sat, 25 Oct 2008 17:27:33 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-878 Maybe there's some important part of her life she'd like to share with you as well? Maybe? Maybe there’s some important part of her life she’d like to share with you as well? Maybe?

]]> By: JunLoayza http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-846 JunLoayza Fri, 24 Oct 2008 19:59:14 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-846 I see what you mean. I personally don't have more to say to be on the net; rather, I have different things to talk about. The reason I want my girlfriend to be involved with me in the online community is so that we can start having that in common. If we have that in common, I feel that we could chat even more about it so she doesn't feel like she can't relate to my virtual friends. I'm sorry that you feel left out. My follow up post to this will be how you can spend time online, and still make your girlfriend feel special and appreciated. Either that, or how to get your significant other to join you online. I have a good friend who got his wife to use Flickr, Twitter, and to go out to social media events. They couldn't be happier! I want to give it a try with my girlfriend and hope that she likes it. If she doesn't, what can I do? I'll still love her the same. - Jun I see what you mean. I personally don’t have more to say to be on the net; rather, I have different things to talk about. The reason I want my girlfriend to be involved with me in the online community is so that we can start having that in common. If we have that in common, I feel that we could chat even more about it so she doesn’t feel like she can’t relate to my virtual friends.

I’m sorry that you feel left out. My follow up post to this will be how you can spend time online, and still make your girlfriend feel special and appreciated. Either that, or how to get your significant other to join you online.

I have a good friend who got his wife to use Flickr, Twitter, and to go out to social media events. They couldn’t be happier! I want to give it a try with my girlfriend and hope that she likes it. If she doesn’t, what can I do? I’ll still love her the same.

- Jun

]]> By: lonely http://www.junloayza.com/entrepreneurship/technology-is-interfering-with-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-845 lonely Fri, 24 Oct 2008 19:15:25 +0000 http://www.junloayza.com/?p=274#comment-845 I am like your girlfriend, at least similar. My husband spends most of his day online, playing a game on a social network. It isn't so much the game that he plays, or the many people he now has as online friends that bother me. Online friendship is fine, but some times I feel like he talks more to his online friends than me. Could I do the same as him, sure I guess so, but won't that make the problem worse? Then we both spend hours upon hours connected to a computer, talking to people down the street, in the next town or across the world instead of each other. Do I have jealousy issues? Sure I do, what man or woman wouldn't worry about their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend talking to many members of the opposite sex. Is it a trust issue? I don't think so, I do trust my husband love him with all my heart. I just feel left out, and lonely when it seems he has more to say to others on the net than me. I am like your girlfriend, at least similar. My husband spends most of his day online, playing a game on a social network. It isn’t so much the game that he plays, or the many people he now has as online friends that bother me. Online friendship is fine, but some times I feel like he talks more to his online friends than me.

Could I do the same as him, sure I guess so, but won’t that make the problem worse? Then we both spend hours upon hours connected to a computer, talking to people down the street, in the next town or across the world instead of each other.

Do I have jealousy issues? Sure I do, what man or woman wouldn’t worry about their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend talking to many members of the opposite sex. Is it a trust issue? I don’t think so, I do trust my husband love him with all my heart. I just feel left out, and lonely when it seems he has more to say to others on the net than me.

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