Comments on: Sex is overrated

By: Herbys

Herbys — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 09:05:22 +0000

I agree completely with your post.
I would put it more simply though:
Do not dedicate a large amount of time in your life to things that do not enrich you.

Gaming an enrich you, up to a very limited point. Listening music can enrich you, unless you spend your whole days listening. Watching a football game can be enriching while you learn something, but memorizing whole games will not.
And sex, sex will enrich you if it fortifies a relationship, if it leaves you with something good other than a short term pleasure feeling. Otherwise, you are wasting your time on something that won’t make you happier, better or more fulfilled.

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By: Jun Loayza

Jun Loayza — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 16:51:59 +0000

@Sean Conway - It’s what I try to do Sean. If I can inspire you to look at life in a different way, and thus your life becomes happier, then I have accomplished my goal.

By: Sean Conway

Sean Conway — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 11:13:05 +0000

Great post…got me thinking, meaning you did your job

By: Jun Loayza

Jun Loayza — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 10:24:53 +0000

Thank you Yukai, I’m glad you understand the meat of my post. A meaningful relationship is essential in having a meaningful life.

Your argument comparing getting the perfect career and getting the perfect relationship is awesome! I couldn’t have put it better myself.

Do you remember how I used to be back in my 3rd year? I’ve come a long way thanks to you!

By: Yu-kai Chou

Yu-kai Chou — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 08:47:31 +0000

Hey Jun,

I just revisited this post, and it is pretty awesome. The first time I saw it, I was distracted by the title and it prevented me from digesting the actual gem in the content. This time it became a great reminder!

As for all the folks who are leaving comments, I don’t think there is a “flaw” to Jun’s argument. Yes, finding that perfect person might not be easy, and the timing matters a lot, but that has nothing to with the logic but the feasibility of something. Jun’s argument is that having the perfect relationship is better than chasing girls left and right, not that it is easy.

If one says “get a job, and you will get a salary,” it wouldn’t make sense if someone responds, “You have a logical flaw because getting a job is hard and sometimes the market timing needs to be right.” Jun is awesome, like Kittens wearing pants.

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Fri, 13 Feb 2009 20:17:31 +0000

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By: A.J.

A.J. — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:39:03 +0000

Aha! I can finally leave my original comment:

“Sex is like oxygen. You only appreciate it when you’re not getting any.”

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:10:32 +0000

Hey Jun - I agree with you on all points except for the last one with one caveat. While I agree that a perfect long term relationship will leave a person happy and fulfilled in the long run, it has to be taken up at the right time in one’s life. I believe once someone has achieved what they want to achieve with their life in terms of career success than a relationship should be pursued. As we all know, a relationship requires a regular time investment to nurture and grow. The time requirement however, will take away from other pursuits in one’s life, such as career success. On the other hand, it’s possible to have both because Rob Kiyosaki mentions his wife several times in his books as he grew his business. He and his wife shared the same goals of starting and growing a business though so it worked out. Not all girls are like Rob Kiyosaki’s wife though so it’s important to remember that sometimes a long term relationship may require sacrifices of one’s time and that sacrifice may include giving up part of one’s time in his or her pursuit of career success.

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:10:13 +0000

I actually sorta agree with you. Even though I’m an incorrigible skirt chaser, I tend to think sex is not a big deal. What it boils down to is sex (and chasing chicks) shouldn’t run your life. What’s MUCH more important to me at this stage is wealth building, and I don’t mind putting sex on the back burner for stretches while I work on personal projects.

I think on a more practical level, guys shouldn’t get all bent out of shape when a girl dumps him or ignores him, and girls shouldn’t define themselves by their ability to attract a high value mate. I say focus on what you’re “gift” is, do that thing to the best of your ability, and look for mates secondarily.