Relationships and Entrepreneurship
Lets start off by describing what kind of girls I like. She has to have a heart shaped face, skinny body, unique hair, dress very trendy, listen to indie and electronic music, be affectionate, great kisser, and has to love to be taken care of.
Kim is all of these things and more
So in every way that I think about it, Kim Ear is my dream girl. Now, you add the fact that I am an entrepreneur and that I’m working 90+ hours a week, including weekends, and things start to become a little complicated. I’ve heard from a lot of people that if you don’t have a girlfriend before you start your business, don’t expect to find one once you’ve started it. I’ve also heard from many sources that it is nearly impossible to maintain your relationships because you’ll hardly see each other.
To all you would-be entrepreneurs, I would like to say to you that so far, my relationship is great and I have found plenty of times to go out and enjoy some time with my friends. It’s all about self-discipline and organization.
I honestly wake up every morning at 7am, eat breakfast, go to the gym, and begin working by 10am. I don’t stop working until 2am at night Sunday to Thursday. This leaves my Friday and Saturday nights open to go out to Hollywood or Beverly and let loose. These are my ideal days
So are there any hardships for me with my job as an entrepreneur?… YES
Kim Ear loves to cuddle, watch TV, go out, and just live life relaxed and not worry about things. So when she’s over at my place while I’m working, she’ll usually try to distract me by messing with my keyboard or pulling me over to the couch to watch TV with her. This severely cuts into my productivity and work time. Getting out of bed with my girlfriend in it is SO hard! Even the most self-disciplined person can break under the pressure of relationships.
Would I be more productive if I didn’t have a girlfriend? Most likely. Would I be happier without Kim and left alone to attend to my work? Of course not. So far, we are very happy together… but I do see some gray clouds looming over the horizon.
For example, I’m going to San Francisco this week to go to a startup conference. Kim spent the weekend at her friends place partying, drinking, and hanging out with a bunch of people and today has allergies so I can’t go over and see her. So, I’m pretty much not going to see her for about a week. Now I know what you may be thinking, “A week is not a long time buddy.” Well for us, it actually is. I don’t do the long distance relationships and neither does she. She might need to go to New York to become a buyer for Bloomingdales and I might need to move up north near Menlo Park because that is where all the action is.
If we do get funding for Future Delivery, then we will have to do the long distance relationship. Will we last? I honestly do hope so, but our personalities are not meant for long distance…
Wow, Jun! This is a really personal post, but I like it. I’m not a fan of long distance relationships unless you’re married. Otherwise, I think that if you’re committed to the relationship one person should move with the other. For passionate people, physical connectivity is critical to any successful relationship. Without it, the relationship will start to be more draining than rewarding. Tough line to walk, but it’s one that we all find ourselves on again and again. Unless your married. In which case you’re screwed.
Hrmm, a fascinating take. You asked the question “Would I be more productive if I didn’t have a girlfriend?” and you answered, “Most likely.” I think this is arguable. Having good friends, a girlfriend, and “leisure time,” can make your “work time” much more productive and valuable. Certainly, I could work 20 hours a day, but only the first 10 or so would I be operating at my peak productivity (and 10 is a stretch). With little breaks and distractions, I feel much more creative and, though it’s impossible to measure this, I am certain I get more done than without them.
@keenahn - Great point! I thought about this as well, and if I didn’t have a girlfriend, maybe I would spend more time chasing girls. Kim keeps me grounded and focused on what I need to do. If I wasn’t with her, then I might actually be focused on getting ass rather than getting work done.
I check out your blog, looks good. Look forward to reading some great stuff on your side.
- Jun
awww. that was so sweet of you. i wasnt really fond of visiting sites but then i got stuck on your page, especially this topic, mentioning your girl and all. you were both lucky for each other. I hope i could find one like you. By the way, I’m also an entrepreneurial management student graduating this year and your site gave me so many ideas to put up in the near future. its good being in a relationship with an entrepreneur, i guess. it’s like putting a start up and loving it like a baby!♥
Hi Pebbles!… if that’s your real name…
It makes me very happy to hear that you got “stuck” on my site. I do put a lot of time and effort into my posts and design, so it makes me feel good when it is all well received.
That sounds like such an awesome study! Where do you go to school? Hit me up some time and we can chat about your ideas me [at] JunLoayza.com